Parenting: 1-Year-Olds Community

Hehe Jamie! I feel like this sometimes...some days I do feel like I would rather go into the office instead of work from home; but I don't really want to go into the office. I just want to GO. Period.

I'm sure it will only get worse when I have this little guy.

Let's just quit our jobs and fly to meet each other for coffee for our adult time out of the house, k? :P

So much so!!! Except for the part about wanting to be some place else when I am with Macie. I don't know if you read my "Frustrated" post on Monday or not, but I am having real problems. I hate the traveling from my job, but I love having flexibility when I am at home and having Macie with me in the afternoons a lot. I really have felt for a long time like something has to give. I feel stress to get more charge hours from my job and stress to spend more time with Macie from nobody besides myself. The biggest issue, we can't afford for me not to make close to what I am bringing in. I really just want to get pregnant, have another baby and then work only an 80% schedule. I just hope that I don't lose my job before then. My boss told me recently (when I tried to quit) that was a non-issue, but I still freak out about it. *sigh* I kind of hijacked, sorry! I am really hoping this gets easier when they hit school age!

YES! I feel like this alot, more so the last few months. We just moved to Colorado about 2 months ago and I really like it here but since we moved here my husband works so much more then when we lived in Utah. He leaves for work around 7:30 and on a normal day he gets home at 7 and sometimes not till 8 and he does this 6 days a week. I feel like I have NO adult interaction at all unless its over the phone LOL. Its really hard being away from him so much for me and for Savana. We miss out on alone time but I also miss out on help with Savana at night time. I don't think I could ever bring myself to take her to a daycare but if I knew someone that I really trusted (like my mom or sister) I think I would leave her a few days a week and work part time. I do LOVE and enjoy being home with her but some days are so dang frustrating and just plain hard!

Yeah, I'm sure that's a pretty common thought among most moms. I would LOVE if I only had to work part time. I am so sick of working 50 hours a week and only seeing my kid one hour each night. If I was home all the time though, she would run me ragged.

Yes! I work part-time as well and know exactly what you mean. I was just saying the other day how bad I want to stay home full time but then I think, hmmm, not so sure I wanna do that-especially on days when Katelyn is acting not so great, LOL!

I also work part-time and I wouldn't change it. I used to take my DS to work with me and it was exhausting. I got to the point where I would get grumpy at him because I just needed a break and to have adult interaction. Now I love spending my non-work time with him.

I actually think about some days taking leave and still taking DS to daycare for some me time, but I don't know what I would do with that time since there isn't much to do around here. Tomorrow I am going to a special meeting in the morning so I will take DS with me and I will finish my 4 sork hours with him then. I'm thinking I may still take him to daycare when we get home and go to the fitness center and work out.

Yes, I think I will, that would be nice!

Yeah... the grass is always greener, right??

I'm in the same boat - I work full-time at my "day" job then I am building my freelance bookkeeping business and now have 5 regular clients so I do that work at night and on weekends. I'm working towards just being able to do my own biz so that I can still get out of the house to work, but do it on MY terms. I don't think I could be at SAHM... I'd go nuts and probably spend WAY too much money! Plus, I love the fact that DD loves her daycare - she has several friends there that she loves to interact with and just loves her DCP. I'd hate to take that away from her!

I work full time and never want to be here...but i couldn't be a SAHM....it's just not for me. if anything, i would LOVE to only work part time. that will never be in the cards for me either though...sigh...

I think I've found the right balance - I totally know what you mean though. I work 4 days a week. I'm usually home by 4;45 so that I can give Abby dinner and spend about 3 hours with her before bed. I leave for work before she gets up (we have someone that comes to the house). Then, I'm off on Fridays so I spend the whole day with her plus Sat and Sun. By Monday I'm usually ready to head back to work for some adult interaction. So like I said I think I have found a good balance. 1;1 time with my Abby and then time at work with adults. There are days I say I wish I could be a SAHM but I'm not sure I"m cut out for it. I think I would miss the daily adult interaction. But, trust me if I had the choice I would definitly stay home....I miss her so much during the day.

I remember the day I had that same revelation.

I was like, "does this make me a bad mommy?" LOL

After being a SAHM (and a homeschool mom) for nearly 10 years, I finally realized that I don't like to be at home all day.

Although I loved my time with my children, I really missed some good adult interaction. And by that, I mean conversation that revolved around more than just potty training, bottles, poopy diapers, or temper tantrums.

I would rather that I work just part-time, like I did when Nettie was a baby, but that just wasn't an option any longer when we bought the general store/lodging and it didn't work out the way we'd hoped.

Although we still have the general store, I have my job back. But now it's full time.

I totally know how you feel. I used to work A LOT--from the time I was 15 until I was 22 and 8 months pregnant, I had always had at least 2 part-time jobs(sometimes up to 4). Then I went to being a SAHM. I loved it, but I needed something more for my own personal well-being(and sanity). That's why I became a Creative Memories consultant. I am now looking for a babysitter for one full day a week, so that will be my "strictly business" day, and then I am booking parties for evenings. I am now doing crop nights with my customers once a month, and I am going to start doing workshops as well.

It's giving me that adult interaction and time to do things I enjoy, while still technically "staying at home" the majority of the time. You're not alone!

I work part time from home but i go into the office once a month and I actually look forward to those days. Of course when I am there all I think about is Tyler but it is nice to get away. And eat a meal without someone at my feet begging for my food. Then there are some days that I can't wait for Daddy to get home, so i can get a little break from Tyler. But in the end I wouldn't change my situation at all.

I've worked since i was 15 years old (now im 32). i cant imagine being home all day. i miss dylan ALOT when i am at work, but we need the money. its a catch 22. if i stayed at home, i wouldnt be able to afford to leave the house. right now we are in an apt, so its not the easiest to even do a load of laundry with dylan home at the same time.

i like going to work- i get adult interaction... i also work for the best boss ever. most of the time im paying bills and getting stuff done at work that i wouldnt be able to do while at home. if i need to take a day off or leave early if we have a dr apt, etc. i can and its not held against me. i have the ability to work from home so if its bad weather or dylan is sick, we stay home and i still get paid. i also work from 10-4 so its not like we are gone all day either. we do have an hour commute so that stinks. but if i am running late in the morning- usually due to me and dylan playing around too much!- that isnt held against me either.

I like that dylan goes to school while im working. i dont believe in the whole "other people are raising my kid" thing, and he absolutely LOVES school.

if i ever loose this job, i seriously dont know if id be able to go to a "real job" LOL and my whole outlook might change. ha! but for now, i think we have the best of both worlds. ideally, id like to even cut back another hour a day, but work is starting to get busy again.