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Is "good enough" good enough?
Chris_WebMD_Staff posted:
Our resident pediatrician, Dr. Adesman, on the Parenting Community posted this interesting article I wanted to share with you.

I just read an interesting column on parenting in Newsweek by Julia Baird entitled "Lowering the Bar: When bad mothers give us hope". (

The column raises the question of whether modern-day parents are expecting too much from -- and giving too much of -- themselves. Julia Baird writes: "Today, women no longer need to escape their families to work or be happy -- now they need to escape their own unrealistic expectations of what a good mother is". She continues: "Oddly, the more involved we are, the more guilty we have become".

For the rest of the article click on the parenting link above.
Happy Friday Ladies!
cary1974 responded:
I read the article and while I agree with some of it, it is kind of condescending, acting like all mothers of this generation have jumped the shark just because we care about our kids. I have three of them and while there have been times when I have had to sactifice some of my hapiness for them, I am sure the same could be said for them, there are times they want my attention where they don't get it because I was working, tired, cleaning, reading a book...etc. I think mothers do need to let go of the guilt about trying to be a perfect parent and just acknowledge that we are all doing our best from day to day. There is no such thing as a perfect mother and I don't think that is what any of us are striving for, personally I think I would be happy with being "good enough"!
VicsEandJ responded:
I don't truly believe in guilt- if you think before you act and know yourself enough to come up with the best solution, why bother feeling guilty (unless you're a psychopath who enjoys hurting others and they don't GET guilt).

I don't believe in perfection- its too much hard work and no one can be perfect at everything- all you have to do is try your best or as much as you can

And I like myself- and I know my good and bad qualities and I think that every adult woman should take the time to know and like and accept herself independent of any other person.

So I should agree with the article- but I hate articles about motherhood,womanhood etc. because I think that they all exist to make women feel bad about themselves.

What really was the point of that article? What is the point in comparing mothers of today to their grandmothers- how different is the world?
Mothers have to do what they feel is right for themselves and their families, no matter what it is- it's your life- no one else's and you only get one.
Me (40plus), DH (40plus, plus 2), DS (2 1/2), DD (1)

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