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Njnana posted:
I think this is a very strange and disturbing thing to do , my son- in- law showered with his daughter !! There was no urgency for him to shower with her ! My daughter works nights at a local hospital and she obviously wasn't home at the time ......she mentioned this to me, that her husband told her about showering with his daughter, and said how inquisitive she was hahaha ! Is what he said . As her grandmother I am so upset with this ,! I want to approach him re this matter !! How do I handle such sensitive matter ? please.....help me !
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ammanada responded:
There's nothing wrong with parents showering with their young children, same or different gender. At all. It's completely normal in most cultures; we're just more uptight about nudity here. It's probably best to not intervene in such things.
Says a Dr. Vincent Iannelli from about.com:
"While this can be a little bit of a controversial topic, most people would think that it is fine for a toddler to take a bath or shower with either parent or with another child of the opposite sex.
Many parents stop this practice during the preschool to early school age years, but exactly when you stop has more to do with how a parent and child feel about the issue more than anything else. If either feel uncomfortable or want more privacy, then bathing and showering together should stop."
 
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An_251459 responded:
My son is 2yrs old and I still bath with him every once in a while. You make it sound like a father bathing with his daughter is really bad. In my opinion is nothing bad came out of it then there is nothing to worry about. Children have bathed with the parents for hundreds of years but your post makes it sound like its a bad thing. Yes children are going to ask questions its all a part of learning. If you try to shelter the child then what will they learn?
 
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An_252407 responded:
Regardless who else (outside yourself) think it is OK for your grand-daughter to bathe with her father, you MUST approach this situation (the Dad) with the most gentle, non-accusing, and warmest expression of concern -- about your feelings.

I am a 49 year old male, with a 2.5 year old son and live in the 21Century US of AMERICA, where child molestation, pornography, and other abuse is bursting through the seams in communities, families, schools and sitters. There is NO way an act of this kind should be allowed to occur one time, not to mention multiple times; not with your child and not with the neighboring child who comes for a sleepover with your child.

A mother and father MUST know better than to be so reckless as to teach and allow yours or any child to become exposed to, to explore and/or generating curiosity and questions about your sex organs. Parents should all be careful what we teach our toddlers and children of all ages, how much we teach them, and when we deem it OK for them to learn it. Equally, parents should inspect, scrutinize and manage what their child(ren) are exposed to with a fine tooth comb; from the cartoons and other programs they watch on the tube, cigarettes and drugs, to their own and other people's anatomy and sex.

There has to be something severely wrong with a person, male especially, who consciously find it to be OK to dangle his private before a child, boy or girl for any length of time. To do so says a lot about your conscious or subconscious uninhibited sexual practices, which some feel so free to inflict upon their child(ren) who can not make the decision (whether to bathe with or sleep with their parent) for him/herself. It's an entirely different thing from eating with your child.

Keep your child safe from all
 
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JLDean responded:
Regardless who else (outside yourself) think it is OK for your grand-daughter to bathe with her father, you MUST approach this situation (the Dad) with the most gentle, non-accusing, and warmest expression of concern -- about your feelings.

I am a 49 year old male, with a 2.5 year old son and live in the 21Century US of AMERICA, where child molestation, pornography, and other abuse is bursting through the seams in communities, families, schools and sitters. There is NO way an act of this kind should be allowed to occur one time, not to mention multiple times; not with your child and not with the neighboring child who comes for a sleepover with your child.

A mother and father MUST know better than to be so reckless as to teach and allow yours or any child to become exposed to, to explore and/or generating curiosity and questions about your sex organs. Parents should all be careful what we teach our toddlers and children of all ages, how much we teach them, and when we deem it OK for them to learn it. Equally, parents should inspect, scrutinize and manage what their child(ren) are exposed to with a fine tooth comb; from the cartoons and other programs they watch on the tube, cigarettes and drugs, to their own and other people's anatomy and sex.

There has to be something severely wrong with a person, male especially, who consciously find it to be OK to dangle his private before a child, boy or girl for any length of time. To do so says a lot about your conscious or subconscious uninhibited sexual practices, which some feel so free to inflict upon their child(ren) who can not make the decision (whether to bathe with or sleep with their parent) for him/herself. It's an entirely different thing from eating with your child.

Keep your children safe from all, that includes you and anyone who thinks this is OK.


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