Parenting: 3-Year-Olds Community

My daughter turned 3 last September. About May of last year she started asking to sit on the potty when I took her with me to the bathroom. I already had a seat and of course let her. I talked to the daycare that she is is about starting her (this was back in APRIL of last year). Both of the people there repeatedly told me she wasn't ready to start potty training for one reason or another. Main one that annoyed me was hearing them say it was because she didn't use the bathroom the few times she asked to sit on the toilet there. Unfortunattly she is there 9 hours out of the day so without their cooperation I felt that any thing I did with her wasn't going to be very productive. The FINALLY decided to work with her in August of last year only one month before her third birthday. Which happened to be when many kids left to start kindergarden. Now here it is the end of March, she still is not potty trained, she doesn't say when she needs to go so I have to make sure to take her every hour or there is an accident. I have put up with ALOT of guilt trips from the daycare blaming me for not being potty trained within 3 months, that the other 5 children who were younger than her and started at the same time are already wearing underwear ect. I've tried candy, stickers, no underwear, they work for maybe a week then she's bored. Now we are on the little admission tickets you get since she thinks they are for fair rides. (Which we will trade in for the real ride tickets when it comes in 2 months.) 1 if she pottys, 2 if she poops, 5 if she's dry in the morning... The downfall if she pottys or poops in her underwear I tear up 1 or 2 tickets, none if it was night though. She's been on this for 2 weeks not many accidents. I'm still really frustrated though having a daycare breathing down my neck and anything she doesn't do is my fault, but the accomplishments she's made learning things some 5 year olds don't know is because of them and according to the owner "she has RAISED other peoples children for 23 years and knows what she's doing". I know my daughter is just pushing to do things her way and I don't mind not being potty trained as much as I do being hounded by the only daycare available for my work hours.
i honestly don't know what else to do if she looses intrest in the tickets. Yes she is my first and only child but that doesn't mean I don't know anything about them. If anyone has any other ideas how to get her out of being in the same stage for months now PLEASE HELP. I'm too the point of timeout if she says she "wont" go and then has an accident, but at the same time I feel bad.