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3 year old not developing
An_248834 posted:

My 3 year old daughter does not seem to be mentally developing as a 3 year old should. Her birthday is the end of Sept. A child this age should say several hundred words, she can say maybe 10 or so if that. She can dress herself if the clothing is simple such as a dress, tshirt or shorts. She cannot pull pants on herself. Same with shoes, she can put slip ons easy, but cannot get tennis shoes on. Her mentality is that of an 18 month old baby.

Her doctor will not discuss anything but finally said at the last appointment she is a little slow but headstart will be good for her. And that there are different degrees of autism.

She fell and hit her head between her eyes at age 1 and required stitches. At age 18 she started having absent seizures but they have disappeared and takes no medication. Not sure if that has anything to do with her mental development?

We can obviously see something is wrong but the dr's won't listen. Are we just expecting too much from her and she will catch up or should we get a second opinion?
QTpie2009 responded:
I'm all for getting a second opinion. My son was born with a broken left arm due to the pressure of the birth canal on his bones. We did not know this until he was a couple months old and here's why... At the NICU (he wasn't in NICU for the broken arm but for being born a month early and underdeveloped lungs and eating skills) the doctor said he probably pulled some ligaments in his shoulder while being born. They had me do physical therapy on him 3 times a day, stretching and turning his little arm all different ways. He would scream bloody murder and it just hurt me so bad. After we got out of the hospital we went and saw a specialist at a children's hospital. That doctor said in fact he had a fracture and to stop the physical therapy immediately because it was hurting him! I felt so awful that I had been hurting my baby by following the orders of the NICU team. So I would definitely get a second opinion.
tlkittycat1968 responded:
I agree with pp and would get a second opinion. DS was slow in talking and although the doctor wasn't worried, we were. He was evaluated and has been in speech therapy since he was about 2 years old (he's 5 now). He's also been in physical and occupational therapy for about as long.

Go with your gut feeling.
jlynnpaine responded:
I would absolutely get a second and even a third opinion if necessary. You feel like something is wrong (justifiably so IMO) and the sooner you address it the sooner you can get help for your DD.
Jodi (28), DH (24), Shaelynn (2), DD2 (due 5/16)

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