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seeit2 posted:
We toured a few schools and interviewed school principals and nurses while in Texas house-hunting, and we found a school that seems to have its act together and is laid out well enough that they could keep DD safe while she's there. As safe as any kid who can't touch milk could be, anyway. Personally I think it's crazy to expect them to but they seem pretty sure they can help us.

One principal said (one way) they handle allergy is by having kids pick a lunch buddy to eat with - the buddy eats lunch with the allergic child and promises not to bring any foods containing the allergen while they eat together. So, be honest. If my kid lived up the street from you, and became friends with your kid, and they spent time over the summer playing, would you be willing to send your kid to school every day without any milk, cheese, yogurt, butter, or any foods containing these items in their lunches? Is that above and beyond in your eyes, or would you do it for your kid's friend?

Your answers are probably going to break my heart but I'd like to hear them because this is a huge decision for us and I have no objectivity about it personally.

Deb
Esmerelda Supercalifragilistic (40) DD (4) DS (1)  Just eat it, will ya
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crunk05177 responded:
Maybe because I know what it is like to have a kid with a severe allergy (My 18 month old and my 5 year old nephew) and maybe the fact that I am a teacher but I would totally have absolutely NO problem sending my kid into school without milk products. Let's see...typically he wouldn't have any for lunch at home anyway. Water (sometimes a juice), sandwhich (bread and turkey/ham), banana/apple/mandarin oranges and fruit snacks or maybe graham crackers? Is that so hard to ask? That's a nice lunch right? And everything I listed is ok for her to be near right? I obv am speaking off the top of my head and not looking at labels right now. Now if my child was the one with the allergy, I would want other parents to treat my child fairly which is why I would choose to go along with it with no problem.
Me (27), DH (30), DS1 - Michael (4) and DS2 - Nathan (1 - severe peanut allergy and an egg allergy)
 
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Stephensmom1214 responded:
Yes, I would absolutely do that. DS's favorite lunch is PBJ and applesauce (I *think* that fits your criteria), but even if it wasn't, I'd figure something out that he liked, that would be safe for your child. One of DS's friends that we invited to his b-day party is on a GF diet to help with his autism, and I offered to make him a special cake so he could eat with the other kids. His mom said I didn't have to, because they actually do 3 weeks GF, and one off, but I would have. I'd really hate to think that other parents WOULDN'T do that for their child's friend, but I know they are out there.
Patty, Erik, and Stephen (12/14/06)
 
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mommyofthree745 responded:
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My daughter's school has this system and it seems to work. They have all of the children that have allergies sit at their one table and they are allowed to bring a buddy with them that is willing to forgo certain food items. Yes I would be willing to send my daughter to school with out the items listed above if she wanted to do that in order to sit with her friend. I would not have a problem with this, it is one meal a day 5 days a week. i would just have to learn to be more creative with her lunch choices.
 
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Those2GirlsofMine responded:
Personally, I would have no problem accomodating allergies in order for either of my daughters to be able to eat lunch with their buddy. I think it would take teamwork between both sets of parents, but I think once you got it all figured out it would be fine. I think I would be one that would want to split it up though - say I send the lunches for both girls MWF and you do it TTH and then switch the next week. Then if it is trouble to pack the correct things every day, you would at least get a break from it.

HOWEVER, girls are fickle - boys may be, too, but my experience is with girls. Little Sally's best friend today may be her worst enemy tomorrow. What happens when the kids no longer want to eat lunch together? Does your DD get a new buddy?
 
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iocasta responded:
I wouldn't have a problem with it.
 
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VicsEandJ responded:
I think that it wouldn't be that hard to find a child who wouldn't eat that stuff anyway intially and pair that cild with your DD. After time, I think it wouldn't be that heard to find a kid who wouldn't want to eat that stuff around your DD because she couldn't have it.

The older DS gets, the more his food choices are influenced by his friends. He generally doesn't like yogurt anymore, but if I say so and so eats yogurt- he'll eat it.
 
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Haylen_WebMD_Staff replied to VicsEandJ's response:
Hey Deb - I would do it - but only if I liked you (ha, ha) I would make sure my kid was OK with it too...

School is 1 meal out of 3 and other snacks - my daughter could go dairy free for sure.

If it's too much for one child, could there be a few who could rotate? M-W-F and T-Th or alternating weeks?

Haylen
 
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mommy5kiddos responded:
I would have absolutely no problem doing this. Like the pp wrote it's only one meal out of three. I think DS's future school is tooooo lax when it comes to allergies.
 
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critty123 responded:
Sure, we would do it. I'm a nervous-nelly and I would probably like to have you coach me on what is ok and let me know of anything that might contain diary in a hidden type of way. In other words the only thing that would concern me about going dairy-free is to be sure that I could do a good job of it.
 
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sarah0323 responded:
I wouldn't have a problem with it.
Me 32,DD 11, DS1 7, DS2 5, DS3 4, DD2 3 months
 
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ryanandleigh responded:
Right now DD is off dairy so that wouldn't be problem for us! It would be easy to not provide dairy for meals for DS too, if I needed to. If my child wanted to sit with a child with allergies, I would make sure he knew what he can't bring and as long as he is fine with it, I would allow him to sit with the kid with allergies and of course, I would not send anything that wasn't allowed. DS is really good about not eating things in front or near DD that she can't have. He totally understands about allergies.
 
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baby1at35 replied to ryanandleigh's response:
I will say this that my guys love dairy. Honestly they probably couldn't go without dairy every day but to make a concession a few days a week sure we would. I think it would be a great learning of compassion for my boys.
Henry has a little girl with Cerebral Palsy in his class. He loves her and learned so much this year about compassion for others who have disabilities or obstacles. He was really upset at the beginning of the year when she had to be in the hospital.
Sorry got a bit off track but just saying I would be totally fine with it.
Me (41) 2 busy boys 5yrs and 5 yrs for 2 months! 10 mos apart Oh My !
 
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neeru_pdx responded:
I would hope that you would give me some help with ideas of what to pack, but if my child was interested and willing, I will totally do it. But I would make that decision with my child.
 
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seeit2 responded:
Thanks for responding. I must not have any faith in humanity. Of course, I would have to trust a total stranger to make an attempt at getting it right every day - I think that would be a huge issue for me. (Of course, I already do that every day, so...there's the issue, huh?) But I think my own relationship with the other parents would be a big part of it. And with the school.
Esmerelda Supercalifragilistic (40) DD (4) DS (1) Just eat it, will ya


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