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    One of those moments and school vent.
    Baby1at35 posted:
    Sorry this is long ...and more of a vent

    So this morning the boys were telling me it was pajama day at school. There was no notification from the school. Tre said Thurs. Henry said today. So my decision was no pj's. Plus it was cold.
    So we get to school and there are a few kids in pj's. Henry got really mad at me. I felt bad but most of the kids had clothes on ... I know he should handle stuff like this better but I guess I should have listened to him as well.
    So this leads me to my next thing. The school is not communicating with us parents at all. It has been horrible lately. So if they are not communicating with the small stuff what about the big stuff.
    It is extremely frustrating. You can expect the kids to tell you what is happening however info is not always so clear with a 5 & 6 yr.
    The school is also bursting at the seams with little staff. They did not pass their "testing" so I can tell they are teaching to test vrs. teaching so the kids learn.
    Also now that the weather is bad they do not take them for recess at all. There is no physical activity during the day. They go to the classroom for centers or to play quietly. No time in the gym.
    Henry's teacher is burned out and short tempered. She tends to over discipline and takes away recess time at the drop of a hat. She probably could avoid a lot by letting them work out their physical wiggles.. Henry doesn't even know all the names of the kids in his class because she doesn't break down into groups at all.
    So really in essence this morning Henry's reall issue..(was not at all about the pj's. ). He was telling me he didn't want to go to school today as we sat there talking. He is miserable. And quite frankly so am I for him.
    I am at a loss but drafting an email to the principal. Mainly about communication issues, recess time ect. Those aren't things that the teacher can really completely control.
    I cannot wait until this year is over...
    On the other hand Tre's kindergarten is going well.
    So today I feel like a bad mom about pj day..UGH
    Good news is we have open enrollment coming up and I am opting for other schools which we have a good chance on getting into. So wish me luck and give me strength to make it through this year.
    Thanks for listening..
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    seeit2 responded:
    {{HUGS}} and good luck with the new school, it does sound like it might be just the thing for you guys. I think a letter to the principal is also a good idea, maybe if he/she gets enough of them things will get better.
    Esmerelda Supercalifragilistic (41) DD (5) DS (2) Just eat it, will ya
    Baby1at35 replied to seeit2's response:
    Thanks Deb. I just sent an email to the principal.
    I think it is time to open the lines of communication more.
    Not sure if she will respond or not so we shall see.
    I am not a "confrontational" type of person and hate to stir pots so to speak , however I feel that I want to make my boys school experience much better.
    I will still change schools but hoping that maybe just voicing some things may help.
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    Baby1at35 replied to Baby1at35's response:
    Kind of thinking out loud here too. But I miss DH during these times. I always felt "stronger" to be able to confront issues when he was by my side. Doing all this at times can be scary alone.
    We were a good team....
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    Laney0705 responded:
    Don't worry about PJ day they'll forget about by tomorrow.

    Usually DS teacher sends home a monthly calendar with all the activities for the month but I haven't gotten one yet. I put a note in DS backpack the other day about it and still no calendar. So hopefully DS isn't missing anything going on at school. I also put on the note to make sure Ryder wears his coat home. He comes home everyday with his coat in his backpack. It's only in the 30s here lately he needs to have his coat on.

    I feel the same way you do about not going outside during recess time. They just stay in their classroom and do other activities. I want DS to get some physical acitivity. He comes home all wound up. I don't know why they can't run around in gym for 20 minutes.

    Over all though I'm happy with his school. I hope you find a school for the boys that will fit your family.
    Me(41)DH(38)DS(5)DD(17 months)
    Baby1at35 replied to Laney0705's response:
    Henry had a horrible day. Get this though. The children that wore pj's got to make a special reindeer. Those that didn't well did not. Does that seem right to you? It is ridiculous.
    So now yes I get bad mother award. I am now sending an email to the teacher. This is not working and right now I am pretty upset. She does this all the time and Henry never seems to be on the list to do any special anything. He did tell me but me not putting pj's on him was my fault not his. He battled this morning ...insisting it was but I did not get any notice. So yes I am about in tears...
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    Baby1at35 replied to Baby1at35's response:
    Oh and to add more to this. If they get all green dots with one yellow they have an all star party.
    If they do not get to go guess what they have to do? Sit in the classroom writing the rules!!! Really ? It is not punishment enough to not go?
    So now my MaMa bear is coming out. This is really getting out of hand. I know he is not a perfect child but no one is perfect. He has had way more green dots than yellow.
    This isn't workin' for us. I hope that I can get some solutions as the end of school year is a long way away. UGH
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    seeit2 replied to Baby1at35's response:
    Discipline by exclusion is pretty harsh. And excluding kids for wearing the wrong thing is just dumb and unfair. Poor Henry. I mean, we all forget to do some school things sometimes - I know we had a thread about that recently, it happens to everyone I think.

    I hope you email the teacher and principal repeatedly, not to be a whiner but to maybe get to the bottom of why this particular method is being used to get kids to cooperate.
    Esmerelda Supercalifragilistic (41) DD (5) DS (2) Just eat it, will ya
    Baby1at35 replied to seeit2's response:
    Oh y'all I could write a book here. Her discpline is bordline cruel and somewhat in my opinion emotionally abusive. I have sent an email to have him removed from her class. I want him out of there.
    My child is showing signs of distress: he is having trouble sleeping, bedwetting, nail biting and a lot of crying .
    I will not have this continue. He is a nervous wreck afraid to ask her for help, afraid to ask to go to the bathroom. A child should not be afraid of the teacher.
    So I will keep you all updated. If it doesn't work I will pull him out and homeschool him until I can get him in another school.
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    Iocasta replied to Baby1at35's response:
    Wow this is truly awful. Children who wore pjs got to do something special and those that didn't didn't??!!!! Who does such things, especially to 6 year olds. I hope you can get him out of that class. I too would seriously consider homeschooling until you can get him in a better situation. I'm just sitting here shaking my head. I would park myself in front of the principal's office until they did something. Good luck.
    MrsWhiteCastle replied to Baby1at35's response:
    That's terrible! Punishing a child for not wearing PJs??!!! At that age, everyone knows that the parent is still in control of what the child wears to school. Wasn't that the school that also excluded kids for not having a grandparent at school?

    I so hope that you can get him enrolled in a different school next year. Homeschooling sounds like a good option in the meantime. And I wouldn't leave the school until he was put in a different class. Does the principal agree with what the teacher is doing?
    Emily (6) Elizabeth (4)
    cinder44 replied to MrsWhiteCastle's response:
    Poor Henry!! That is just ridiculous that he did not get to participate b/c she didn't send home a note!

    Since he is under stress, can you switch schools now instead of waiting until the end of the year?

    I am so sorry you are both going through this! (((Hugs)))
    Me, DH, DD(4), DS(4)
    Baby1at35 replied to MrsWhiteCastle's response:
    Yes the same thing with the grandparents day deal.
    I sent a very bold email last night to the teacher/principal. I saw that it was read this morning.
    I am sure they are going to turn it all around on my child in some way. I have had enough. He shouldn't be feeling this way. It is 1st grade for gosh sakes.
    He is also the type that fights back more if there is extreme discipline tactics in use.
    I am just sick to my stomach about all of this.
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    Baby1at35 replied to Baby1at35's response:
    I am not sure how to get him into another school right now. This is our assigned school. My other choices are much better and closer to my home (much closer). I know we will have a good chance of getting in. They are trying to diversify those schools and we are diversity so to speak.
    I have no idea if we can get into them now since this is our assigned school. I would have to research that. I do know you put your app. in Jan with top 3 picks. They then get back to you in April.
    So I have no clue what to do if the principal doesn't make changes. I will probably home school (which will take on a whole other new research project. ).
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    VicsEandJ responded:
    Hi Sandra,
    Sorry you guys are having such a hard time.

    Maybe you should try contacting the school you wnat to place them in for next year now and see if they have any open spots and ask them how to go about making the change as soon as possible.

    Other than that, I think you shpuld definetly keep emailing boththe teacher and principal. Henry's teacher's methods are appalling for first grade students and as long as he is there, you shoudl contiune to voice your concerns. If you don't get any help form them or you think it's getting worse, try emailing either the PTA or someone in the school district's office.

    I definitely think you should also have some face to face time with the principal.

    Good luck and stay strong !

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