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    Repeating Kindergarten
    crunk05177 posted:
    Michael turned 5 December 7th. I thought he would do great in kindergarten because he was doing so well in preschool. I guess I was wrong He is not classified with anything but because he in a kindergarten center (all the kindergartners in the district go to the one school) he is getting a lot of help. He is recieving physical therapy one day out of the 6 day cycle, he goes with the reading teacher 4 out of the 6 days and now another teacher who works on following directions, number concepts, etc wants to take him another 2 days out of the 6. His classroom teacher says it would be too early to make any decisions but she can bring it up. She said it wouldn't hurt and that it is probably him just being immature.

    I went into this knowing it could be a possibility. He has kids in his class who turned 6 in December and he only turned 5. If he repeats it, he will turn 6 in December and also have kids turning 6 in January and February, etc. If I am going to hold him back, I'd like to do it now, rather than in a higher grade and I don't want him to be struggling for the rest of his life either.

    What are your thoughts?
    Me (28), DH (30), DS1 - Michael (4) and DS2 - Nathan (1 - severe peanut allergy and an egg allergy)
    samijac responded:
    I didn't have a choice but to wait for my DD to start K when she was turning 6 in Dec. The cut off here is Sep 30. I think she would have been able to handle it last year but I graduated when I was 17 and it kinda sucked for me all the way thru school. I was always the youngest of all my friends and did everything last, dating, driving, etc.

    I think the extra time for them to mature is a good thing. And I def agree if you hold him back, now is way better than later. I think if you let him get all this extra help this year that he will be much better equipped for it next year and sail thru.

    GL with the decision!
    iocasta responded:
    Honestly I can't believe that you can start K at 4 with a December birth date. That just seems like a recipe for failure and a disservice to those children. Sure a few children, mostly girls, may be able to handle it but those are rare children. The child would need both academic AND social maturity not found in most 4 year olds.
    mrswhitecastle responded:
    Elizabeth just turned 5, and she will start Kindergarten next Fall. Here, you cannot start K ate age 4.

    I would have him go into Kindergarten again next year. I wouldn't think of it as holding him back. I would think of it as starting him when he really should start. This year, it seems more like trying to have him start Kindergarten early, and it just didn't work out.
    Emily (6) Elizabeth (5)
    crunk05177 replied to mrswhitecastle's response:
    The cutoff in most schools on Long Island is December 1st and only like 3 districts have it being December 31st. New York City also has it as December 31st. There is a kid in his class who has a birthday later in December whose mom had him start K this year rather than last. I won't deny it, I made the wrong decision by letting him start. He was doing so well in preschool nobody thought he'd have any issues.

    So I won't be ruining his life by having him repeat it right?

    "I wouldn't think of it as holding him back. I would think of it as starting him when he really should start. This year, it seems more like trying to have him start Kindergarten early, and it just didn't work out."

    Thank you for that advice....made me feel better!
    Me (28), DH (30), DS1 - Michael (4) and DS2 - Nathan (1 - severe peanut allergy and an egg allergy)
    crunk05177 replied to crunk05177's response:
    Not to mention, DS2 was born October 21 and he will be going to K at 4 as well....not sure at this point if I would hold him back or not....I guess we will see when we get closer.
    Me (28), DH (30), DS1 - Michael (4) and DS2 - Nathan (1 - severe peanut allergy and an egg allergy)
    UKbluegirl2 replied to crunk05177's response:
    I, like several of the others, am amazed they do K at 4. That's just too young. Wil is in pre-k 3 and will turn 4 in May. He will be in pre-k 4 in August and will be 5 when he enters K.

    Ava is the 2nd to youngest in her class of 25 and she was 5 before the school year started on 7/25. Another girl turned 5 the first week of August. A lot of the children are 6 or turning 6 now.

    Wth them being boys, I'd especially have them in K at 5. IMO, K is a TOUGH year! No naps, learning to read books, understanding money as well as counting by the various multiples, it's just amazing. K is really a huge foundation these days. I remember my nap days fondly in K; but not this day and age!!!
    ryanandleigh responded:
    If you need to hold him back - do it now. It is easier to do it when they are younger and don't realize anything than to wait until they are struggling in a higher grade. We actually held DS back because even though he was doing great academically, his teacher was concerned about his social maturity. He turned 6 last May and started kindergarten in August. Most of his classmates have been turning 6 since the beginning of the year. (Cut off here is Sept 1.) Now he is the oldest in his class but he is also the best student and has none of the behavior issues that the others have.

    My FIL got held back in the 3rd grade (he has a Sept birthday) and he said it was harder. I spoke to many teachers and parents here in Texas before holding DS back and they all agreed that if they are going to struggle it is around the 3rd grade. We figured by that time he would definitely have friends and know that he was being held back as opposed to doing it before he even started school.
    Leigh, Jacen (6), Alexa (3)
    Mainemommy replied to ryanandleigh's response:
    My friend works as an Ed Tech at our school our cut off is Oct 15 Ds was 5 when we started he was 6 Nov 21 I did notice when DD was moving to 1 st grade only boys stayed back. NOw is the time of year they are getting Ed techs I voiced I was surprised it took this long to figure it out. She said at this point you sometimes also know who is staying behind. IF he is the child from another post who is selectively mute I would consider it. But utmostly important What does his teacher say?
    Steph 38 DH 42 DD 9 Asthma eczema and allergies DS 5 Eczema and milk allergy

    Backwards in High Heels
    baby1at35 replied to Mainemommy's response:
    I would say like everyone else...repeating Kindergarten is better than the higher grades.
    Here they changed the date to you have to be 5 by July 31st. I do think it is a good thing.
    This year in Tre's class there were 3 kids taken out because they simply weren't ready.
    Me (42) 2 busy boys 6 yrs and 5 yrs
    j9ween3 responded:
    I think holding back now will do wonders for him. Do it now before it's a big deal

    I think every state should have the same K cut off date. I also do not believe kids should be in K at 4 years old. In NJ we have must be 5 by Oct 1. I have a friend that kept her June bday kid out of K. I have friends that sent their sons with Aug bdays & all 3 of those boys struggled last year. This year in 1st they are still having some trouble.
    Janine - Tyler -7, Bella -4, Giana -22 months born 8 weeks early

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