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    Food Battles
    mrswhitecastle posted:
    Well, not so much a battle, but ALWAYS complaining. I'm so tired of it! I thought they would have outgrown this by now. I know it's partly (mainly) my fault, I need to put a stop to it. I'm so tired of hearing, "I don't like this", "how many bites do I have to eat", etc. They start in before they have even tasted anything!

    For example, last night I made pumpkin pancakes. They didn't like them. (DH and I thought they were really good, BTW.) How do you not like pancakes? They still had butter and/or maple syrup on them! When you put all that on them, you can't really even taste the pumpkin.

    Are any of you still dealing with picky, or at least complaining, eaters? I guess I need to institute a "no complaining" rule.
    Emily (7) Elizabeth (5)
    sarah0323 responded:
    My stance on food is you can either eat what I make or you can make yourself a PBJ sandwich. I'm not fighting them over food. I figure they will eat when they are hungry. One of them ate PBJ for dinner for about 2 weeks. After that he now eats what I make. They have even choosen not to eat dinner some days. As hard as it sending them to bed without dinner I know that I made them something to eat and they choose not to eat or to eat a PBJ.

    Olivia has a saying that the kids use with each other. "You get what you get and you don't throw a fit." I like when they self regulate each other. They seem to respond better. I also tell them that I'm not a short order cook. They usually start laughing at that.
    Me 33, DD - O 13, DS1 -J 8, DS2 - Cr 6, DS3 - Co 5, DD2 - E (11/10)
    UKbluegirl2 responded:
    Our meal is in stages. They get their main course with veggies first. If that is eaten, they get a fruit. If they are still hungry after fruit they get a yogurt or a small dessert depending on availability.

    We have no snacking in our house. And DH and I limit dinner time. If we have everything cleaned and put up and they are still pushing the first stage around their plate, dinner is over.

    I really got tired of the complaining as well. My older two have now over the picky stage and eat pretty well. Ava even surprises us from time to time and tries something new. But Mia boycotts food more time than not. But I think hers is just a 2yo thing.

    Food is stressful!
    iocasta responded:
    Levi is a distrustful eater. He has been since the day he was born. We have made it a point not to battle him. We are taking the slow and steady approach to expanding his food world. When I think that we are having something that he would like, I make him try it. If he refuses then there is fall back yogurt and cheerios. If I know it is something he won't like I modify it for him. Again there is the fall back. So he eat things like Vietnamese beef or raw endives but not meat loaf or mash potatoes. Heck he will even refuse desserts that I know he will like but distrusts. Crazy. I just hope has he gets older that he will get more willing to try things. It is clear that he is one of those people that eats to live and not lives to eat. Whereas, DH and I both live to eat so it drives us crazy at times. What I don't tolerate is complaining or saying things like yucky or disgusting. Good luck.
    baby1at35 replied to iocasta's response:
    There are days I would like to pull my hair out about their eating. Although I have noticed small steady improvements. It could still be better. They simply will not eat any veggies no matter how I cook them, don't cook them, add sauces ect. I did finally get them to try and eat a few raw carrot sticks.
    Henry loves fruit and then there is Tre who really doesn't care for anything but apples.
    It is tough because it is just the 3 of us and if I make something I do not want to throw half of it away because they won't touch it. It doesn't not help the budget.
    So I try to make a variety of foods that they can try.
    I wish I had a magic food wand to let them try new foods. But like I said as slow as it is they are starting to increase their food choices.
    I was never like that and ate anything..(still do...haha) so this is a challenge.
    Me (43) 2 busy boys 7 yrs and 6 yrs
    seeit2 responded:
    We have a "no thank you bite" policy. They have to take two good-sized bites of everything I serve, and if they don't like it they can have fruit or cheerios. Or extra amounts of whatever they do like, if is it healthy enough. We have a mostly vegan menu these days and the kids have been trying a lot of new things. Some days they do complain before they have even tried it which makes me crazy, I know what you mean about the complaining. When it gets too bad then I make sure they help me cook every night - I do think being involved makes them more likely to eat the outcome.

    Pumpkin pancakes sound yummy!
    Esmerelda Supercalifragilistic (41) DD (5) DS (2) Just eat it, will ya
    cinder44 replied to baby1at35's response:
    I fix what's for dinner & they eat it or not. Last night I cooked chicken tenderloins in mushroom soup. They both said we don't want that but were asking for more when it hit their plate & they tasted it. They have to try everything on their plate. If they don't like the meat I will try to get them to eat more veggies & fruits to make up for it or offer a yogurt.

    I do get how much do I have to eat but I just tell them to try to eat it. If I know they absolutely don't like something I usually don't force it. DS doesn't like green peppers so I will give him carrots instead.
    Me, DH, DD(5), DS(5)
    Haylen_WebMD_Staff responded:
    MWC - Can I come to your house for dinner?!?! Pumpkin is my most favorite flavor of all! The local Yogurtland just debuted pumpkin frozen yogurt and I'm going there straight after school today.

    Here's how we handle it:
    We always have a steamed veggie and fresh fruit on the table - no complaints taken about that. They need to at least try both or they don't leave the table. (It's usually the same 4 or 5 fruit/veg that we rotate and know they will like)

    If the girls complain about the "main dish" DH and I have a stock answer: "Fine, go get yourself a bowl of cereal or have hummus and chips."

    That's it!

    crunk05177 responded:
    My kids are pretty good eaters but at the same time, we are pretty plain cookers too. I have always been a picky eater. As an adult I have expanded my food horizons but I really enjoy my food (guess my reason for being overweight lol) so if I am going to eat, I want to enjoy it.

    For dinner, my kids HAVE to have a little meat AND their veggies. I always make something they like but will also introduce new foods as well. My 5 year old will say he doesn't like steak every time we make it but then he tries it and says oh yeah, I forgot I loved this lol. I don't let them have yogurt or cereal instead only because they eat that everyday anyway for snacks.
    Me (29), DH (31), DS1 - Michael (5 1/2) and DS2 - Nathan (2 1/2 - severe peanut allergy and an egg allergy)

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