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mrswhitecastle posted:
OK, I'm having a "Bad Mommy" moment here. I'm conflicted, excited, and nervous all at the same time.

Emily's teacher nominated her for the gifted program. In order to qualify, she has to take an IQ test.

I'm nervous about her taking the test, and really wish we wouldn't find out her IQ. I'm not even sure why I don't want to know. Is it because I'm afraid that we will find that her IQ is less than what we think it is? I don't know. I really don't want her to have to take the test, I'm not even sure I want her in gifted, but I don't want to deprive her of an opportunity, either.

I know, I know. I told you I was having a Bad Mommy Moment. I've debated for weeks about whether to post about this or not. I've posted now so that hopefully you Moms can slap some sense into me.

(Oh, and Emily knows nothing about this. And we won't tell her why she is being tested.)
Emily (7) Elizabeth (5)
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iocasta responded:
Deep breathes. This is what we learned from the Neuropsyche when Levi was tested. IQ is IQ, there is little you can do to raise it but a lot that you can do to lower it. What you can do to sort of raise it, actually cause a child to reach her full IQ potential, is to challenge her like putting her in a gifted program. Levi scored about what we figured. His score is about what the average Ph.D.'s IQ score is, smart but not crazy smart. Just let her take the test, good to keep her in the dark, and let the chips fall where they may. I'm sure she will do similarly as well as Levi and probably better. I remember taking them regularly in school when I was in elementary school. I guess it was in vogue then. Let us know how things go. Now stop worrying, I know easier said than done.
 
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kc_94920 responded:
Try to look as it as another tool you and her school can use to help her reach her potential. Knowing her IQ won't change anything about her but the challenges she is given in a gifted program very well may. The score will help you decided if she's ready for those challenges or not.

Both my Bigs have been tested and I was shocked at how high DS scored-- now we're just waiting for him to settle down, focus and use those extra points. My oldest, who scored above average and performs that way as a student, is just a different kid. Her brightness will make school purposeful and less stressful but she's not necessarily "gifted" at least not in her school or within the class of high achieving kids she was placed with.
KC~ Mady (10) Logan (7.5) and Coco (4.5)
 
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baby1at35 replied to kc_94920's response:
My brother has a high IQ and was placed in the gifted program.
I will say from this perspective. My brother was soooo bored because he caught on everything quickly and was the typical boy. Got in trouble. His teachers had a hard time dealing with him at times. Once he was in the gifted program it was an amazing thing for him. He truly thrived , excelled and the teachers were happy too as it was a struggle to give him challenging work to keep him going and still teach the others.
The gifted program was good for him all the way around.
Me (43) 2 busy boys 7 yrs and 6 yrs
 
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Haylen_WebMD_Staff replied to baby1at35's response:
I don't think you're having a bad mommy moment at all! Excited and conflicted and nervous seems right on for this situation!

DD1's teacher asked us for permission to test her for gifted. I said sure (we won't tell her what that test is either) but now I'm thinking we should hold off. You only get one shot at the "gifted" label in the LAUSD school system. For me, the main reason for her to be ID'd as gifted is that it opens up all kinds of magnet and charter school possibilities.

Let us know what you decide about the test - is it next year? Do they give it to her on the school campus or do you go to a testing facility?


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