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Touching Too Much
jr8181 posted:
I have a five and a half year old son who is constantly getting in trouble for touching too much (with the sitter & at home). When he was younger, I thought he would just naturally grow out of this, but it's getting worse, not better.

Whenever he's touching, he means it in a loving manner, but he's forever climbing up into laps (even when it's clear that it's not desired), touching people's faces, grabbing arms & legs.

We've tried everything we can think of within reason, redirecting, explicitly explaining when it's OK and when it's not OK, giving consistent consequences for undersired touching. And I'm at my wits end. I can't take it any more! And every day that I pick him up from the sitter's house, I hear that he's been isolated for part of the day as a consequence for grabbing. She watches several very young kids & though he intends to be loving in his touch, he frequently ends up knocking them over when trying to give them hugs or help them walk.

I don't want him to think that hugs or physical affection are bad, but he just doesn't seem to respect the boundaries we've set for him. Any thoughts?
seeit2 responded:
Have you tried any kid's books about respecting personal space or appropriate touching? (There's one called "Personal Space Camp" by Julia Cook that might be good). Does the sitter try to teach him what is appropriate or does she just isolate him?
Esmerelda Supercalifragilistic (42) DD (6) DS (3) Just eat it, will ya
tlkittycat1968 responded:
My son in around the same age and has almost the same problem. He will get in people's personal space. We just gently remind him by saying "Space" and he'll back off a bit. It's a constant thing with him so we keep having to say it.

Could your son have a form of autism? My son does and we think that's why he has trouble with people's personal space.
Pround mom of PJ (5) and Kylee (3).
mrswhitecastle replied to tlkittycat1968's response:
Elizabeth has an issue of personal space, too.

I read a good suggestion on the Elementary board. A poster suggested using a hula hoop to demonstrate the boundary of your own personal space.
Emily (8) Elizabeth (6)

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