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Thoughts on when to teach about death?
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sdadkin posted:
Last night I was reading to my 4 year old DS from a children's Bible story book. The story was actually about David and Goliath. At the end of the story it mentioned that Goliath died. We have several different children's Bible books and this is the first one that actually said Goliath died (most of the time it just says that he was defeated). Well, after I left the room DS asked his daddy about dying. I'm not exactly sure what was said, but my SO came down the stairs upset and telling me I shouldn't be teaching a 4 year old about death. I must mention that my SO does not go to church and I'm not sure if he believes or not. I take the boys to church every Sunday. Anyway, what are you're guys' thoughts about when and how to teach about death? Do you think 4 years old is too soon? How do you teach it to them on a level they will understand?
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crunk05177 responded:
I am not sure....my kids know about death because we do the Relay for Life Cancer walk every year....we always make a luminara bag for my husbands mother who theyve never met. But we tell them that she is in heaven with God and she watches down on us. The other night my 4 year old asked if she could hear us. I told him yes and that we can talk to her and tell her we love her and miss her. I don't know if he really understands this but it's the best I can come up with lol.
Me (30), DH (32), DS1 - Michael (7) and DS2 - Nathan (4 - severe peanut allergy and an egg allergy)
 
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jlynnpaine responded:
We've had conversations with DD1 about death due to pets and family members passing. However, DH and I were on the same page ahead of time and discussed how we wanted to try to explain it to her, by telling her that they were in Heaven and that of course spurs other conversations. It's so far beyond their scope that they really can't grasp it (I mean really, it's hard for adults too!) but you just have to do your best to make it simple and not scary and base it on your own beliefs.
 
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tlkittycat1968 responded:
My parents had one of their dogs put to sleep and one of my cats passed at home. We just told my daughter that the dog is in doggie heaven and my cat is in kittie heaven. She knows I was sad when my cat passed so she gave me a hug to help me feel better. She just turned 4 and hasn't asked any other questions.

My 6 year old hasn't asked any questions about where my parents' dog when or my cat even though he was pretty much raised around them.
Pround mom of PJ (6) and Kylee (4).
 
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earleyml1012 responded:
My oldest also found out about death from reading David and Goliath. I don't remember the exact conversation but I told her that if you believe in God then you don't have to be scared to die b/c you'll go to Heaven. Now when she talks about death she also says something about sitting on Jesus' lap...which I think is cute. This summer we had a snake in our drive way and DH killed it with a shovel, so she talked about the dead snake for a while. I don't think she truly grasps the idea of death but you can't ignore it with them at this age.


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