Hi Helen,
Do you have your son in a birth to three program? Usually, you can request a behaviorist to help with the problem. I can tell you tha,t when my son would get upset, I tried to teach him to breath heavily, but I realize that (for a 2 year old) it is not always possible to teach this. What I used most on my son was to sing, hold him tight (which provided much needed compression for input) and rocked him (another technique to provide imput). The song I sang was song I made up called "hugs". I still sing it to him and he is 7. It really helps him. The tune is familiar, and the verses repeat, which provide him with the routine he needs. I also use our family members names as I repeat who needs a hug. This keeps his focus on the song, and the music is just a natural soother for him. I'm not sure if this will help your son, but try music. Classical music (from baby einstein series) helped my son to calm down. If you want the tune or words, email me at
webmd@pressdough.com . I would be happy to jot down the words or talk with you off line.
Also, don't discount the services you are getting. If you think you may need a behaviorist, make sure you request one. You will never get what you don't ask for.
Let me know how it goes. - Pam