Parenting: Elementary Ages Community

I am dating a guy who has two young girls 5 and 7. I have older teenagers. In the mornings he either wakes his girls up and brings them in his room or they wake up and come in his bed every single morning. During the week he gives them their clothes for the day, turns on the cartoons and then he goes in to shower and change while they get ready. There is no door between his bedroom and his bathroom and his shower door is clear glass. To date they have never walked in his bathroom. I told him that I think he needs to stop bringing them in his room. First, they need to starting getting up and getting ready in their own rooms, and meeting him after he is ready and they don't need cartoons in the morning till they are ready. Second, I told him they are getting too old in case they come in the bathroom, he needs to start building the idea of privacy. Third, because he does this in the mornings during the week they come in every weekend morning and climb in his bed. wakes him up and he cant go back to sleep and they think it is their right. Every other night they get to start out going to bed in his room too and then he carries them to their own rooms later before he crashes.

Maybe I am being too stuffy here. I loved snuggle time (and still do) with kids, on the couch or in their beds or if they are sick or on special occasions in my bed. I think kids by this age should be learning what is their area and respecting the privacy of the parents area. The oldest is in second grade.

I need some advice. We have been together two and half years, but I have only started coming around in the evenings in the last couple of months and its hard. I have to watch where I change, they come in and wake me or us up in the night and I have to and we have to go to work in the morning. Frustrating. Maybe I am just too used to my kids that are so independent and it has been too long from this stage for me. We are both in our early 40s.

Just a side note. It was a very bad divorce for him and his ex and he works so hard at keeping them happy and wanting to make a good home for them where they feel at home and want to come to "daddy's home" as much as mommy's. The ex is constantly bashing him to the girls, but they seem to have overcome this. I know he loves the time with the girls - they will only be little once, but it seems they are pushing some age issues to me, things that if they are not corrected now will be almost impossible to change later. I just don't know.

Thanks so much,

Confused.....