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    Pain and crying while pooping
    KranKatie posted:
    Our 2.5yr old daughter caught what seemed to the Doctors
    like a Stomach Virus last week. For 3 days she had Vomitings and Diarrhea. On the 4th day she started getting better but also from that day she started complaining about pain in her anal area and had been crying hysterically when she poops. We took her to the doctor 3 times and every time the doctor checks her stomach and the anal area says nothing is wrong and ask us to put some Vaseline. We then switched her doctor, the new Doc says it could be Gas and Constipation so we started giving her Mylicon, BioGaia Probiotics and food that will help her stool soften. All this with no change in her symptoms.
    She complains of pain only near the anal area more when she passes gas, but the pain is severe when she poops. After Pooping she gets normal for some hours. We dont know what to do now, we have been very concerned and cant see our baby go through this unknown pain. The new Doc says that the next option is to do a rectal exam and more invasive tests. If anyone of you has any suggestions please advice.

    Thanks in advance
    Louise_WebMD_Staff responded:
    I have to say I agree with both doctors. I would have thrown some vaseline on it and assumed it was a sore bottom from the virus -maybe a bit of hemorrhoids from diarrhea. Then if you over corrected after the virus-constipation just made things sore as well.

    Also, kids that age learn really quickly to fear pain if they have had pain during bowel movements. They also feed on the feelings of their parents. One of my kids right around that potty training age of 2.5, had just gotten the hang of associating the feelings that go before having a bowel movement -then had a horrible stomach flu and got a nasty yeast infection. It was weeks before she didn't start screaming before she had a bowel movement.

    If her bowel movements are not excessively hard or are true diarrhea and are regular- I wouldn't go for the invasive testing. I say that just as a mom, I don't have any medical training.
    KranKatie replied to Louise_WebMD_Staff's response:
    Thanks a lot Louise. My Daughter still cries 10/20 minutes before here bowel movement, we started giving her Miralax upon doc's recommendation and put her on Soy milk. Fortunately she is active and eating well except for those terrible 20 mins. We plan to watch her for some more days and then see what to do next.

    To me it looks like there is definitely pain when she poops right in the poop area and becasue she remembers those pains she doesnt want to go at the same time cannot hold on. Frankly I wonder why our highly paid and highly 'professional' doctors cannot even suggest these things even after 3 or 4 visits.
    Louise_WebMD_Staff replied to KranKatie's response:
    Poor thing. I hope things get better soon.
    mandie82481 replied to KranKatie's response:
    did you ever find an answer?? My DD is going through the same thing now @ 18 months!! I have been "googling" for hours and so far so answers..
    dgkent replied to KranKatie's response:
    My grandson has had these same issues. We have tried everything. He now has an appointment to see a pediatric GI specialist which his pediatrician recommended. We are hoping to have answers soon. It is so difficult to see your baby cry in severe pain everytime they have to poop. He seems to cry whether it is firm or soft but is ok shortly after the event once he calms down. I will post any results we find -
    Roy Benaroch, MD replied to dgkent's response:
    Far and away, the most common cause of pain and crying with bowel movements is constipation. Even once the constipation is addressed and the stool is soft, children who've been through constipation will continue to be anxious and upset with bowel movements, and can continue to get very upset and feel genuine pain. It can take a surprisingly long time for them to "forget" that their bowel movements used to be big and hard and painful, and parents need to continue to treat the constipation for a long time so the child doesn't get reminders from the occasional hard stool.

    That being said, I don't think constipation is the only cause of painful stools. There can be inflammation of the gut, perhaps from infection or allergic inflammation. There might be an anatomic issue that prevents the comfortable passage of stool.

    If pain continues even when constipation has been treated, it's best to get a GI specialist involved.

    Best of luck!
    chloeslyric responded:
    I have the same story my 3 year old son got a tummy virus and after it went away screaming for 20 minutes while pooping definitely looks like he's in pain , and he's not constipated its like playdoo texture did you figure out what was wrong?
    dadswithdaughters replied to chloeslyric's response:
    I don't see why no Dr mentioned this but my daughter has had the same problem since we switched her off formula. We couldn't take seeing her in pain and took her to the doctor. Like all of you said, we got the same answers. But then we decided to switch her to lactose free milk and no more dairy products. She has been doing great ever sense. It's such a relief to see her well. However it is quite hard to find foods she likes because not many are made with these restrictions it seems. In order to not make her feel any different I switched everything I eat at home around too so she doesn't feel left out. Hope my story helps someone.
    ryanbrowning115 replied to dadswithdaughters's response:
    It so so nice that you switched up what you eat too, I am sure that is helping tremendously. I can imagine how tough it is for her to have to change what she eats but it would be even harder if she always saw you eating the foods she can't eat any longer. Nice work!
    rafase282 responded:
    My son had a similar problem, it was constipation in his case and the stool was too hard, I had to attack from the inside and outside. I got him stool softener and made him drink lots of water and prune juice. That helped soften the stool from the inside, but that was not enough, so I had to use a kids enemaand Vaseline to help from the outside. At the end it was like a hard cap and then the rest was soft, he would still fear going to the toilet for a while.

    My advise is to increase the water intake, and fibers.
    danni_peck responded:
    It sounds like hemorrhoids. Hope your daughter gets better soon.

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