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    Should I have my children vaccinated if I don't want them to be?
    mommaof2babies posted:
    I need some opinions on this please. I have 2 children, 6 and 3, that have a terrible history with illness connected to vaccination. My son, 6, stutters, tics, and is hospitalized nearly every time. My daughter, 3, goes home afterward, and then a few hours later we are rushing to the hospital because she is literally boiling to death in her own skin! Their pediatrician tells us that they just have a bad reaction and they will be fine with Motrin, but I don't see it that way. I see my son well on his way to being diagnosed with autism and my daughter dying. I need to find out if there are other parents and pediatricians that have recommendations or advice for me that I can present to their doctor. Our daughter is going into preschool in August and they are requiring her to be immunized. This is in GA, so I am not sure what I can do to opt out, or if I am even able to do so. Please Help!!!
    fcl responded:
    I would start by finding another, more sympathetic pediatrician. Then talk these issues over with her/him.
    jlc78 responded:
    If you don't want them to be vaccinated, then you don't have to. The decision is ultimately yours. And there are ways to opt out of them for the purposes of enrolling in school. I'm not sure what they are in your state so you'll have to do the research. Obviously you just need to be aware of the risks by not having them vaccinated. And I agree with the PP on finding a new pediatrician. We are delaying my 21 month old's vaccines after having reactions to her 9, 12 and 15 month shots. Fortunately I have an understanding pedi. I'm still not sure if we'll ever continue with her vaccines. On the other hand, my 3 year old is fully vaccinated and will continue to be.
    jlc78 replied to jlc78's response:
    Here is a link on GA's requirements:
    mommaof2babies replied to jlc78's response:
    Thank you both so much! It is so hard to watch my children go through all of this. I will check out the link now. Thanks again.
    Boyzmomee replied to mommaof2babies's response:
    I would be very cautious.

    However, there are no links between vaccination and autism. Autism symptoms can become very obvious at the same age when children get their vaccinations. It does not imply a causal relationship.

    I think there is a "green" vaccination schedule. You can look it up online.

    The most important thing however, IMO, is to take your children to a teaching hospital and obtain a peds doctor affiliated there before you (or if you) allow any more vaccinations.
    Andrew Adesman, MD replied to Boyzmomee's response:
    Pediatricians vary in their flexibility around immunization schedules. As stated by the PP, reseach has shown there is no link between autism and vaccinations. Nonetheless, many parents find this hard to accept.

    Finding a new pediatrician -- possibly one based at a teaching hospital or children's hospital -- may be best.

    Also, you mentioned your son may be heading to a dianosis of autism. I gather he has been evaluated by developmental specialists (psych, speech-lang, possibly OT, etc.). I would suggest you add a child neurologist or develop. pediatrician as well.

    Good luck.
    mommaof2babies replied to Andrew Adesman, MD's response:
    He has been evaluated by a pediatric psychologist, and she also tested his IQ. She is a family friend and very trusted by us. She said that he has near borderline Asperberger's, and that his IQ is 180. I know that this form of autism can be mild, and can be undetected if treated properly. She has evaluated him both before and after vaccines, and her professional opinion is that he is worse after. I have had my daughter seen by some of the top doctors at Children's Healthcare of Atlanta too. Several have told me to stop hers all together. On the other hand, some say to keep with the schedule. Dr. Adesman, I thank you and everyone here for the advice and your concerns. It is hard to watch my children go through this. Thank you again. I will definitely go to a teaching hospital from now on.
    Boyzmomee replied to mommaof2babies's response:
    Teaching hospitals have great resources. My son has been treated at one that is why I made the suggestion.

    I think you will find a lot of help there!
    CortneeStipp responded:
    Both my sister and I had horrible reactions to our childhood vaccines. I still react to vaccines bad today but can handle them better. We refuse to vaccinate our children hers is 5 and mine 10 weeks. If you tell your doctor that they react to the vaccines they should not make you vaccinate because the side effect for reacting are so horrible(mental retardation is one) the risk is to great for people who have family history of reactions. To me its like going in and saying everytime I give my child a peanut she reacts and gets hives or throat swelling ect. and them saying well to bad you have to give it to her anyway. They have vaccine exempt forms for children like yours and mine. It is a hassle with schools and daycare but in the long run its better for children who react to vaccines.
    eastcoastbeachgirl replied to CortneeStipp's response:
    I can empathize with you about your children's reactions, but as PP suggested, please look into ways to have your children vaccinated, these illnesses kill.

    The hassles with schools and daycare are a hassle for a reason, as unvaccinated children are a DANGER to others, like my son who has heart defects and has had numerous open heart surgeries.

    Your child may be lucky enough not to get one of these illnesses but can still be a carrier, infecting others. Your decision not to vaccinate could kill some else.
    tashatank24 replied to eastcoastbeachgirl's response:
    Can you explain to me how an unvaccinated child can infect your vaccinated child? Aren't they vaccinated in order to be protected? I have never understood that response.
    Roy Benaroch, MD replied to tashatank24's response:
    Vaccines are not 100% protective-- nothing in medicine is 100% effective, and even after natural, serious infections not everyone will be immune to the disease. Also, some children cannot be vaccinated because of health problems.

    In every community, there will be some people who are more vulnerable to disease-- the very young, the elderly, and people in poor health. Vaccinating all children helps protect not only the children who are vaccinated, but the whole community, including those who can't be vaccinated and people in whom the vaccines didn't work.

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