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Need advice on circumcision!!
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JuliansMommy2009 posted:
I chose to have my son circumcised at birth, but after the circumcision healed, it gave the appearance of not being circumcised at all. I continuously asked his pediatrition if the redundant foreskin was normal, & she told me that he would grow into it. By his 9 month appointment she finallly referred me to a urologist to get a second opinion. This doctor told me that when he was circumcised, not enough skin was taken off & he would have the extra foreskin the rest of his life. I was given the option of my son having revision surgery done to fix the redundant foreskin, but Im worried about a number of things - the risk of surgery, potential complications due to the anesthesia, & not mention the pain he'll be in afterwards. He is a very healthy baby, has never been sick other than a cold - I was told healthy babies are at less of a risk of having complications during a surgery. He is also still young - almost 10 months - so Im hoping that since he's still young the pain won't be too extreme.
Im looking for advice from other parents whose children have had this same surgery or something like it.
How did the surgery go? How were the after effects?
You're advice is greatly appreciated.

Thanks,
JuliansMommy
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TyPatrick08 responded:
My nephew ahd this done... He was just over 1 years old when he was recirct... I think if you want him to have a normal looking genital area better to take care of it now then when he is older and can rememember what happened. My nephew did great he was in some pain for a good week and it was hard to change his diaper for the first week but he was a trooper!!
 
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MizLeah responded:
I think he will be fine either way. My ex actually had a full circumcision when he was around 2. He didn't remember anything and there were no complications. I will say this though his mom said she had regrets because of his age and seeing him endure that sort of pain. It is true at a younger age it is not as bad but when they start to get a little older I think it is just more apparent what kind of pain they are in especially because they are active/mobile. GL
 
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Roy Benaroch, MD responded:
Sometimes a boy can "grow into" what looks like a lot of extra foreskin. Picture a sock that fits loosely on a small foot, but as the foot an leg grow the sock might actually fit pretty well.

Has your child been examined by a pediatric urologist? You may need a specialists' expertise and experience to judge whether a circ revision is needed.
 
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An_221998 responded:
According to the report recently released by the CDC, only 32.5% of infant boys are being circumcised today . That's down from 56% just a few years ago. My 3 boys are intact because we figured that whether by G*d's design or millions of years of evolution, we couldn't possibly improve on the form of their penises. Every mammal on earth has a foreskin, even marine mammals (there goes the whole 'foreskins were necessary for primitive man when they lived in sandy conditions, but not now' theory). If they were inherently dangerous, natural selection would have eliminated them.

You should understand, NOTHING will be as extreme as Julian's first circumcision. People have this idea that the earlier you do it, the less it hurts. That couldn't be further from the truth. Studies show that newborns have "free" nerve endings and that these nerve endings transmit more pain at a higher sensitivity than an adult's nerves . Their stress hormones rise in response to a circumcision and that level takes more than a year to come back down to baseline. We even see that circumcised male children feel more pain during vaccinations , as if their threshold has been "bumped down" by the severe pain of circumcision. So newborns feel far MORE pain than adults, not less. And children feel more pain than adults. Why any person would choose to put an infant through that sort of pain is beyond me- but choosing to do it a second time for an absolutely unnecessary, cosmetic procedure that he can't consent to, seems excessively cruel.

What exactly is the problem? Why does it matter so much to you that the surgeon left Julian a bit more of his pleasure-giving foreskin than you expected? Ask your partner where the most sensitive place on his penis is-- the answer will be the circumcision scar. That is because it is all that remains of the exquisitely sensitive pleasure-giving nerves in his foreskin. Do you really want to rob Julian of that? Hundreds of thousands of men will buy devices and spend years stretching their shaft skin in search of a "normal" penis , and you're trying to get Julian's cut off before he can decide for himself if he wants it?

Julian is in the minority. His lack of foreskin will be the anomaly when he's a teen. Tightening his circumcision could cause a bent penis, painful erections or even the lovely peno-scrotal webbing, also referred to as "turkey neck" , where so much of the shaft skin is removed that the penis has to "borrow" scrotal skin for erections. He could even have one of the many more severe complications. Why not just leave him alone to decide if he wants what's left of the body he was born with.

Don't you love and respect Julian enough to give him a say in his own body and sexuality?

~Huntress
 
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An_221999 replied to An_221998's response:
I don't know why that posted as anonymous, but it was posted by me... JIC you wanted to reply.

~Huntress
 
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RestoringTally responded:
Many young men are wishing that their parents had left their sex organ alone when they were born. The foreskin serves a purpose and circumcision creates more problems than it solves. If the circumcision is too tight, he will have problems when he grows up because his erections will either be painful or his penis will not be able to fully extend when erect (this is a common complication to circumcision because the doctor cannot know how big the boy will be when he grows up).

I say let your boy grow up the way he is. At least that way, if he decides to undo his circumcision by restoring his foreskin, he will have a head start. After all, there is nothing wrong with having a foreskin. About 80% of all men in the world have a foreskin.
 
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Boyzmomee replied to RestoringTally's response:
The majority of circumcised men have no such problems.

Both of my sons have been circumcised for religious reasons.

My 20 year old thanked me for it. Lol.
 
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Boyzmomee replied to An_221998's response:
1. Circumcision, whether completed or not should not be based on a popularity contest.

2. Both of my sons were completely relaxed during their circumcisions with not a peep out of them. They had local anesthesia.

3. The majority of circumcised men have no such problems as you've described.

4. There is research that circumcision lowers the risk of Aids especially in countries like Africa where adult men are getting circumcised.

5. There are no other medical reasons to circumcise. We did it for religious reasons. However, we should stick to the facts.
 
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Boyzmomee replied to An_221998's response:
By the way, I love and respect both of my sons.
 
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121sweetie replied to Boyzmomee's response:
Just my 2 cents...I dated a guy who was uncircumcised and even though he was extremely clean about things (as am I ) I got a yeast/bacterial infection EVERY time we had sex. Kinda killed the extra "pleasure" the foreskin was supposed to give!!! My son had to have his circumcision revised, and we did it as soon as possible so he won't remember the pain, etc.. I had a friend who had his revised in his teens and was in excruciating pain for weeks. Do it now.
 
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FCL replied to 121sweetie's response:
The reason you kept getting yeast infections had more to do with him having one and you passing it to and fro between you. He should have been treated for yeast too and the problem would have stopped there. Men (even uncircumcized ones) can get yeast infections and they generally have no symptoms.
 
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FCL replied to Boyzmomee's response:
Actually, the studies done in Africa have been accused of picking and choosing data ... and not being very reliable as a result. Here's a recent survey conducted in the US (a little more pertinent to most of the posters here :) ):

http://www.davidwilton.com/files/jozkowski-et-al--aids-pt-care---2010.pdf


 
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Boyzmomee replied to FCL's response:
Actually, I have seen very reliable data from Africa. Perhaps you were not looking in the correct place.
 
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Boyzmomee replied to FCL's response:
Yes both of my sons had yeast infections as infants (they were on antibiotics) and they are circumcised.


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