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To make things worse when I try to play with him and the baby he is always getting too close to her, making her lose her balance, etc. and just in general doing things that are not safe. He would not intentionally hurt her. I just don't know if he doesn't understand or he's purposely not listening to me. I just don't know what to do..like I said his behavior has improved significantly from what it was a few months ago, but I still need some better way to deal with this..
-Playing repetitively with only certain toys or playing inappropriately with toys (such as spinning the wheels on the hotwheels instead of racing them around)?
-Does he play with other children?
-Does he dislike changes in routine? Or does he insist on sameness (inlcuding same foods, same movies or books)?
-Does he look at you in the eyes?
-Was he delayed in speech, motor skills or social skills?
Even if he doesn't fit any of the previous questions, I would say it's time to find a pediatric behavior psychologist who can help you teach him the proper behavior. They will work with you one-on-one to teach you some methods of getting rid of the unwanted behaviors and replacing them with good behaviors.
If you don't have insurance, most places work on a sliding scale fee based on your income. Your local county mental health department can also help find you services. Also...an Early Intervention entity might be able to help you find services.
Good luck,
Laura
Is your home life chaotic with no routine?
Having trouble changing from one activity to the next is not age-appropriate for a six year old. If he were two or three, then it would be ok and not really cause for concern. He's old enough not to get upset .
I would not dismiss ASD so quickly.
The advice remains the same...whether or not he might possibly be on the spectrum you could consider seeing a behaviorial psychologist for an evaluation for other conditions. (ie: ADD/ADHD...childhood Bipolar disorder...Oppositional defiance disorder...etc.)
-LJ
You're very welcome. I am sorry I came off as harsh. I have seen children who are very obviously Autistic and the parents absolutely refuse to come to terms that their child might possibly (definitely) be Autistic. It's frustrating. The faster they diagnose it the faster those parents could get some treatments.
Your son sounds a lot like my little brother. He was diagnosed with ADHD at age seven. I think most states say to wait until a child is seven to be diagnosed in case they grow out of it before that age.
Anyways...good luck. Everything will turn out okay...even if he is diagnosed with something. Let me know how you're doing.
-LJ
I understand what you're saying. It must be hard to accept. I was diagnosed with ADD when I was a kid. I was not hyperactive at all. I was put into a special class after kindergarten and didn't go to first grade until the following year. I couldn't understand why everyone else was going to the next grade but me. I was put on ritalin at one point, I felt tired, I was ridiculed by some of the teachers. I was testing at or above grade level. When they evaluated me in the classroom they said I was disorganized, etc. I was not offered any help. The whole thing just made me feel like there was something fundamentally wrong with me. I just don't know how to feel about it sometimes. I also suffer from depression and anxiety. I don't know sometimes what is what. I'm scared that my son could have ADHD and i'm scared that he could end up having the same problems I have had.
When this behavior started I mentioned to the pediatrician that he had been acting out. He asked me if he had been acting the same way in school. I told him no and he said it was probably just a problem at home. I just feel horrible. I feel like this is all my fault. If there is a problem, do you think it could be possible for it just to manifest at home and not at school?
My son is a completely different person at school than he is at home. At first he resisted the change of having school. It was hard for about the first three months after he started school. It was a daily battle getting him into the classroom. (Punching, kicking and screaming.)
Now he is thrilled to go to school. He loves routine. But when he comes home...we don't really have a routine established (except for bedtime...which is another story in itself). We have no predictability and he goes haywire. (I'm thinking of a better way to describe his behavior but it's probably prohibited by WebMD's rules. LOL)
So, to answer your question...yes...it's definitely possible for him to act different at school than at home.
It is not your fault. Unless you are physically abusing him or he has been traumatized by something. (I am assuming you haven't abused him and he hasn't been traumatized.)
Another thing that works for us is ABA therapy. It actually works for non-neurotypical children and neurotypical. (Normal and not normal...The non-PC way to say that.)
Applied Behavioral Analysis therapy is the most amazing thing. If you can Google it...you can read about it. It takes to long to explain via writing. It is amazing stuff. It may seem simplistic and silly...but I promise you it works.
-LJ
Sorry for the typo.
I'm my own grammar police.
I've been writing in a journal for a while to see what works best to help with my depression, etc. I decided a few days ago to start writing down how my son's day went and things that might have an effect on his behavior. I figure if it doesn't help it definitely won't hurt anything.
The ABA therapy actually sounds pretty interesting. I've never heard of ABA, but coincidentally I actually met an ABA therapist today. Talk about strange. I'll have to look into it some more when I have some time.
Since you're starting a journal for yourself...start a journal for your son, too. When the unwanted behavior starts, write down the who, what and where. Who was present right before he started screaming/acting inappropriately? What was going on in the environment: Was the t.v. on? Were you cooking dinner or otherwise preoccupied (not giving him the attention he wants)? Where did it occur? Somewhere new? Home? Etc.
It will help you find the "cause" of the behavior.
Sometimes the solution is finding out that he just craves your attention and therefore will do anything to get it - even if he knows he will be punished...he just wants your attention.
Keep doing it one day at a time. Tackle on behavior/issue at a time and things will slowly but surely fall into place.

E-mail me...anytime. I get home at midnight from work so my response might not come until the next day.
-Laura
What do you mean by "draconian"? Sometimes the word "draconian" can also be defined as cruel but your reply seems to indicate to be firmer with consequences?
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