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    ADHD ??? I'm torn...
    mamakris192921 posted:
    I am the mother of 2 wonderful children, one boy (7) and one girl (5). Last year my son's teachers informed me that they thought my son was showing symptoms of ADHD, unable to stay seated, not listening, being disruptive in class, but in the same breath they were telling me what a great kid he was, helpful and sweet. The school reccomended that I get him a doctor's appointment to get him diagnosed. I told them that I didn't plan on putting him on any sort of medication...I mean, he's a kid. I look at my son and see a sweet, sensitive, crazy little boy and I didn't want him all zoned out on meds. I thought that the teachers needed to work a little harder with him at school, not just decide that he has ADHD and move him along. Well this year in school I noticed that he was doing a little better with his school work but was still behind the other kids. His teacher informed me that he was again being disruptive and it was really starting to affect the other kids in the class. So my question to you is this....What should I do??? I want him to like school and have a good experience, but I think if it continues the way it his he is going to have a really hard time down the line. But, like I said, I don't want him to be zoned out.
    Boyzmomee responded:
    There is an ADHD community here! Please join us.

    Who told you ADHD meds "zone out" kids? Children properly diagnosed and treated are not "zoned out."

    Kids with ADHD can be great kids, helpful and sweet.

    I would start with a comprehensive evaluation from a child psychiatrist or a developmental pediatrician. They will rule out any physical causes and be able to provide a proper diagnosis.

    FYI, it's not the teacher's responsibility to obtain an evaluation and treatment for your little boy, it's yours. They are reporting what they see and want to help him, whether it's ADHD or not.

    If your son is diagnosed with ADHD by a specialist, why on earth would you rule out recommended treatment? What if he had diabetes? No insulin? Besides, there are other ways to help your son including environmental supports and a possible 504 plan at school (if he has ADHD and/or other conditions.)

    It's really good that you are noticing some of the problems he is having in school and thinking how his behavior is effecting him because untreated ADHD or other developmental/behavioral/ learning problems will effect him and not in a positive way.

    I've been on this road before, twice, with good outcomes. Please let us know how things are going for you and your son.
    Mindylou78 replied to Boyzmomee's response:
    My story is identical...I'm scared to death to put my son on meds...I could cry thinking about it. My lil guy has always been out going and it had been suggested that ADHD might be a possible diagnosis as he got older, now he is 5...I'm surprised, shocked, ingress I've gotten do use to his behavior that I didn't see it like his teacher. I have a dr appt to discuss options and see if it's true to suggestion that he does have ADHD. I've heard of a few some worse than others... Do either of u happen to suggest any that have worked for ur little ones with out zoning them out. Will lose his wit or sense of humor?
    twoboyztwogirlz replied to Mindylou78's response:
    Hello I can relate to both of you ladies. I am a mother of four 10,9,7,3 and daycare provider of twelve. My seven year old son is so out going, loving and wonderful little boy. he has developmental delays and gets PT,OT, and speech and has been recieving it since he was 11 months when he was three years old he was evoluated and diagnosed with autism because he was in a room full of strangers and wouldnt communicate (did I mention he gets speech therapy) I didnt believe the diagnosis and did my reasearch and it just didnt make since to me so I took him him for a second, third, and fourth evaluation and they all agreed that he wa diagnosed wrong he doesnt have autism my point here is sometimes doctors, teachers, caregivers and humans in general are quick to judge and diagnose now days. In the past little boys where just called hyper now there being diagnosed with ADHD. I can almost be sure my son has ADHD Im studying child development and I have worked with children in my daycare for many years with ADHD the only thing that has been succesful for me is consistency, patience, and educating myself enough to understand a child with ADHD there are days when i have cried yes with out a doubt but then I think of my sweet little innocent boy that dont understand himself I did chose not to medicate my son and so far I dont regret my decision. Thing seem to get frustrating for my son I try to keep him on a some what of a schedule and consistency,reward charts, rewards lots of praise and explaining things to him in detail even if its over and over has worked for my family. You will definetly need alot of support so find someone you can talk to and that will listen to you it really helps after a long day.
    ami_nix replied to Mindylou78's response:
    My best friend's daughter was diagnoses with ADHD about 5 years ago. A mutual friend of ours is now in prison because he became addicted to his ADHD medication and when the Doctor said he was too old to take it, he ended up buying it off the street. As a result of this she did not feel at all comfortable "drugging" her daughter (her words). The child psychologist suggested a cup of coffee in the morning (he said that caffeine is a stimulant like most ADHD meds and often yielded positive results.). Ever since then, My friend and her daughter drink a cup of coffee together or go to Starbucks in the morning before school and she hasn't had any problems and she's a straight A student. Of course, I would never suggest giving a child coffee without MD approval but, it may be something that you could discuss with his MD. I understand why you would be uncomfortable, ever since I found out that the active ingredient of most ADHD meds was Amphetamine I decided that those meds would be a last resort for my children and after all the problems my friend has had with addiction as a result of those meds, I almost feel that if the school system started thinking that my son was ADHD I may actually consider home school rather than putting him on any medications.
    Noah's mom~"Children are the anchors that hold a mother to life" - Sophocles
    seeit2 responded:
    Whether any of you chooses medication or not, it is advisable to get to a qualified doctor and pursue diagnosis. Whatever the outcome you will then be able to make a more educated decision about how to proceed. Teachers can point out symptoms or signs but we are not qualified to diagnose, nor is the average parent. Go to the doc and find out for sure - then get all of the info you need to make a really good decision about whether meds are the way for you to go, and what if any lifestyle changes may help as well.

    FCL replied to seeit2's response:
    Has any of you checked out the ADD/ADHD board here? You'll find it here:

    IT has loads of useful information about coping and treatment options and the people there are all very informative.
    Roy Benaroch, MD replied to seeit2's response:
    Seeit2 makes an excellent point. First, clarify the diagnosis. Then you'll be in a better position to explore options for therapy. There are good resources here on WebMD to learn more, and I also highly recommend the book "Taking Charge of ADD" by Russel Barkeley. It's go excellent, practical information on parenting, school, and discipline strategies that will work best.

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