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Help!!!! Do Not know what to do about my son!!! Please
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Theendofmyrope posted:
My son is 7, since he was 6 he has been in two psychiatric hospitals because he was extremely violent, held a knife to his 5 year old sister, and said he wanted to kill himself. He was put on Concerta and seretiline sp? for PTSD/ADHD. His violence has decreased significantly and he no longer says he wants to kill himself. However his behavior is absolutely horrible! I can not deal with it anymore and I don't know what to do. *Little background on him, his father beat him and raped his sister in 2008 he is in prison now but as a single young mother I got them out of the situation, got remarried (he loves his step father he has been in our lives for 6 years) and the kids were in counseling and therapy the state set up for them immediately following the discovery of what was going on at their fathers house. My daughter is doing extremely well, A honor roll and she behaves. My son has not done well and I have done everything I know to do.

After his visits in inpatient mental facilities and after given the medication, after two years in a good Christian school and behavior specialist I feel I am at a dead end. He deliberately annoys other children to the point he has no friends, he breaks rules all day long with a smile on his face (yes he knows this is wrong... he can articulate to me right from wrong when he is manipulating people). He has flooded my bathroom more than once, cut his shirt with scissors at school because he was "bored", he lies, manipulates and steals. He gets frustrated with homework and will punch himself in the head. He picks on his sister constantly. I have tried every discipline I can! Time outs, naughty corners, losing privileges , writing sentences, spankings, talking about his feelings when he does wrong, drawing his feelings in a journal...Everything!!!
He is still on his medication, the only thing is seems to do is help with the violence he takes this regularly everyday. I'm at the end of my rope I don't know what to do!!!
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momuv4girls responded:
First off (((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))) !!!!!

Your son sounds very bright - - but he needs help.

The behavior you are describing is unstable and his medication is not cutting it (but you know this already). I suggest getting a new evaluation for your son by a REALLY GOOD Child Psychiatrist.

There are complex dynamics here - - difficult/trauma situation w/his birth father, trouble in school, psych hospital stays.

I don't know for sure, but I'm guessing his Father has mental health issues, and your son may have inherited some of them. That is why I suggest a new evaluation from a top-notch Dr.

Depending on your son's diagnosis, certain medications can make behaviors worse.
For starters you may want to look into this newsletter:

http://bipolarchild.com/1999/11/the-bipolar-child-newsletter/

Also, here is an interesting article to read and ponder:

http://www.adhdnews.com/bipolar.htm

I by no means am saying your son is bipolar, but rather would like you to explore if this a possibility.

You shouldn't have to live like this, and your son is suffering also - with proper medication and therapy, life can get a lot better.
Keep searching for answers and don't give up.
I know how hard it is to have a child that doesn't fit the "typical" model, so I really feel for you!!

I have some resource pages if needed - just let me know, and I'd be happy to pass them along. You can write back with your City / State of residence and I will send along as many as I can find.

Take care!
-Kathleen
 
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Theendofmyrope replied to momuv4girls's response:
Thank you Kathleen,
We live in Raleigh, North Carolina. Thank you so much for your help.
 
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momuv4girls replied to Theendofmyrope's response:
Hello again,

Okay - got it.

I will paste some links here specific for your area. I know how overwhelming it can feel when you don't have a plan or direction, so take some time, do some reading and take one-step at a time.

http://www.ncdhhs.gov/mhddsas/childandfamily/index-new.htm

http://www.arcwake.org/aboutus.html

http://www.wakegov.com/humanservices/family/mentalhealth/default.htm

http://naminc.org/support-and-education/families/family-to-family/

I would call and talk to some of these organizations and ask where to find a good Dr. to evaluate your son and get some help with in-home services. You can't do this alone.....you need support, good Dr.s and a plan for your son.

Write back anytime, I check the board often.
Take good care ((((Hugs))))
-Kathleen
 
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stephs_3_kidz replied to Theendofmyrope's response:
I don't have any advice, but I do want to offer my support. I wish you the best!!


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