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    Older Daughter adjustment problem on new arrival
    AhsanYousuf posted:
    My daughter aged 3 is not adjusted with the new arrival (1 month 20 days). She use to beat her even in front of her parents. She use to shout for any thing she want and can not be provided at that time.

    Her schooling started before birth of her sister. Before birth of her sister she was happy when going to school. Now she cry every morning not to go school, even her entire stay at school.

    I being father doesn't give time to younger daughter but talk to older daughter daily when reach home from office, so that she doesn't feel neglected but her mother's time has to be spent more on newborn.

    Please advice who to cope up this issue and my older daughter feel comfortable as usual and settled with new arrival in the family.
    Elizabeth_WebMD_Staff responded:
    Hello Ahsan and Welcome -

    First of all, congratulations on the birth of your daughter!

    See these resources for tips to help your 3 year old and family through this adjustment -

    Preparing Siblings for Baby's Arrival
    Sibling Training Program - Video

    One piece of advice I heard - When the newborn is crying or fussing and you are playing with your older child. Look over to the infant and say "I'm sorry I can't get you right now, I'm playing with your sister. I will be there in 3 minutes." The older child will feel important at that moment and not as upset when you leave to pick up the newborn.

    Our members in our Parenting: 3 Year Old Community may also have suggestions. Please repost your concerns over there for more response.

    Be sure to check back in to let us know how things are going,

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