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An_248261 posted:
My oldest daughter is 4.5 yrs. She is usually very sweet tempered and easy. She is very social and does very well in school. However lately we are noticing that she gets very angry and uses aggressive tone when she gets hungry or is very tired.
We donot spank her or have to give her timeouts. Today she was very hungry and started to have a meltdown. She didn't calm down even after eating and in her rage said that she wants to cut me into pieces & throw me in the dustbin. Needless to say I'm horrified. I have no idea what to make of it. I'm thinking of talking to her pediactrician. We have no marital problems and practice attached parenting. Please help me.
Roy Benaroch, MD responded:
Since you noticed that her behavior is hard to manage when hungry/tired, try to avoid those triggers as best you can. Of course, you can't always avoid tantrums.

I wrote this about kids just a little older than yours, but I think it will help:
mommieoftwo replied to Roy Benaroch, MD's response:
Thanks a lot for your response, Dr Benaroch.
That article is very insightful. Appreciate it very much.
valoispq replied to mommieoftwo's response:
Check her for diabetes 1. My little friend developed diabetes 1 when she was 4 and often acted like that, which she had never done before, when her sugar was off. Believe it or not the paediatric diabetic specialist said the diabetes was from the chicken pox attacking the pancreas and had had 7 other kiddies with the same thing from previous outbreak. Any way the mood swings were one of the first signs. Good luck, I hope it is not diabetes but you could check.
MichelleAve responded:
You pointed out the problem yourself: when she is tired or hungry she gets cranky. So make sure she isn't left wanting. Try talking to her about how what she said was very hurtful and that that isn't the proper way to respond. She's so young, I'm sure she just has trouble expressing herself.

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