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10 year old daughter suddenly won't sleep in her room
kensbby posted:
My 10-year old suddenly stopped sleeping in her own bed. She cries & screams about "bad dreams". She will stay up all night rather than sleep in her own bed. I know she's not even falling asleep before complaining. Maybe she had a nightmare once, but not every night. I don't know what to do. I tried rewards for if she slept alone...nothing. I unfortunately let her sleep with me once out of sheer exhaustion. We hadn't slept in 3 nights. She's never co-slept with us, so this is completely new. She says she doesn't like her room anymore...that it's too far away from us (she's on the first floor, we are on the third). I only have two bedrooms in my house, so I can't switch her to a 'spare' room. What do I do? Help!
momuv4girls responded:
When something starts out of the "blue" like this, I think you have a right to be concerned.

Maybe something happened - an incident that has made your daughter not want to be alone?
Is there anything you can think of? Has she gone away / slept away from you this summer?
Has anything changed - or will be changing soon that she knows about?

Sometimes its difficult to figure out what drives a sudden change of behavior. Have you gently sat down with your daughter and talked to her about her feelings / being scared?

Does she seem "typical" in the day time? Any red flags there?

Another thought is sometimes the influx of hormones during puberty can trigger new confusing emotions, this in-particular happened to my 3rd daughter - it was a difficult time for her.
Here are a few good articles to read regarding this:

I hope some of this helps? I understand how hard this can be on everyone......try to be patient, listen and let your instinct help guide you.
Take care!!

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