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An_221781 posted:
If you weren't with the father of your child and he lives in your city, but hasn't contacted you or your child for visitations ever since he's been back for more than 6 months? I just would like to know what single parents who are in this situation, what they would do. I already am doing what I've been doing since the getgo. I never stopped him and my LO from seeing e/o, but then again, he probably visited her less than 5 times, and she's almost 2 years old, for about an hour or less each visit. But I would NEVER drop what I'm doing for him to see her for (literally) 2 seconds. I did however, tell him that it's up to him if he wants to be in her life or not. If he is in and out of her life, popping up 1 time every other 2 months, he might as well not see her b/c she doesn't deserve a father like that. She's going to keep asking me "where's daddy" I know I will have to answer her one day, but c'mon, it's not healthy if they keep doing that to the kid. I stayed civil with him from the beginning when I told him I was pregnant. He's the one that kept blowing up in my face. I never knew why.
So.... comments? Tips? Suggestions would be helpful. Its just nice to hear from people I dont know.
4 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:What would you do....If you weren't with the father of your child and he lives in your city, but hasn't contacted you or your child for visitations ever since he's been back for more than 6 months? I just would like to know what single parents who are in this situation, what they would do. I already am doing what I've been doing since the getgo. I never stopped him and my LO from seeing e/o, but then again, he probably visited her less than 5 times, and she's almost 2 years old, for about an hour or less each visit. But I would NEVER drop what I'm doing for him to see her for (literally) 2 seconds. I did however, tell him that it's up to him if he wants to be in her life or not. If he is in and out of her life, popping up 1 time every other 2 months, he might as well not see her b/c she doesn't deserve a father like that. She's going to keep asking me "where's daddy" I know I will have to answer her one day, but c'mon, it's not healthy if they keep doing that to the kid. I stayed civil with him from the beginning when I told him I was pregnant. He's the one that kept blowing up in my face. I never knew why. <br />So.... comments? Tips? Suggestions would be helpful. Its just nice to hear from people I dont know.
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Lainey_WebMD_Staff responded:
I am sorry Anon_72245,

Some parents are unable to give a child what they need or deserve. You can try an encourage him (remember it is for your daughter) When you go to a park, or event that involves your daughter, call him up and let him know the dates and time. This will really give him a choice. It is upsetting that he won't take the initiative. He may also have trouble being around very young children.
Report This| Share this:What would you do....I am sorry Anon_72245,<br /><br />Some parents are unable to give a child what they need or deserve. You can try an encourage him (remember it is for your daughter) When you go to a park, or event that involves your daughter, call him up and let him know the dates and time. This will really give him a choice. It is upsetting that he won't take the initiative. He may also have trouble being around very young children.
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gv215 replied to Lainey_WebMD_Staff's response:
This is his 3rd child. He lives with his gf with his 4th child. I have no way of getting a hold of him. I dont know where he lives, phone #, nothing! Child support in my county sucks! They obviously don't care b/c everytime I call, I always have a new agent working on my case, and when I leave a message, it takes them 2 weeks to get back to me, to give me useless information... info they don't even have and if I have any info to share with them. I just gave up on the child support system. It's a joke here. He knows where I live, knows where my parents live, he knows my #, knows where I work, so I'm thinking, well, if he really wanted to be in her life, he would of tried to contact me in all way possible. He's a person who moves from place to place, city to city. My sister has seen him out 3-4 times already but has never approached her to try to get my contact info, if he lost my #. Does any1 think that he doesn't want anything to do with my child??
Report This| Share this:What would you do....This is his 3rd child. He lives with his gf with his 4th child. I have no way of getting a hold of him. I dont know where he lives, phone #, nothing! Child support in my county sucks! They obviously don't care b/c everytime I call, I always have a new agent working on my case, and when I leave a message, it takes them 2 weeks to get back to me, to give me useless information... info they don't even have and if I have any info to share with them. I just gave up on the child support system. It's a joke here. He knows where I live, knows where my parents live, he knows my #, knows where I work, so I'm thinking, well, if he really wanted to be in her life, he would of tried to contact me in all way possible. He's a person who moves from place to place, city to city. My sister has seen him out 3-4 times already but has never approached her to try to get my contact info, if he lost my #. Does any1 think that he doesn't want anything to do with my child??
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Lainey_WebMD_Staff replied to gv215's response:
Child support will be a fight for you unless you get an attorney. Many counties have more cases than workers. There could be many reasons why he is avoiding. People change and I hope one day your daughter's father will.
Report This| Share this:What would you do....Child support will be a fight for you unless you get an attorney. Many counties have more cases than workers. There could be many reasons why he is avoiding. People change and I hope one day your daughter's father will.
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gv215 replied to Lainey_WebMD_Staff's response:
I hope he will one day, but until then, we just keep moving forward.
Report This| Share this:What would you do....I hope he will one day, but until then, we just keep moving forward.
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