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An_221783 posted:
my newborn lil girl is amazing and wonderful and im adjusting to taking care of her well i think. she is growing steadily and seems happy. my issue is me. my husband works 9-14 hour days 5 days a week (depending on the day, he works in the resturant biz). im alone most of the time to take care of our little girl, no breaks. when he gets home he tries to give me as much time as he can to shower eat and nap, usually abt two hours, then he has to sleep because he gets up for work early. ive usually got her all day and most of the night. we have no family here and not many friends. i can handle her care, im just getting so lonley. im crying everytime he leaves for work because it just feels like a giant weight on my back. i cant stop sobbing when he texts me to tell me how busy the resturant is and he will be home late, like if a 15 top walks in right before close, they cant turn them away. he is our only income right now so he cant quit. he is miserable bc he is away so much and his job is not being as flexable as they said they would be before she was born. he feels awful bc she is not bonding with him very well and cries most of the time they spend alone together. i really dont know what to do. i feel so overwhelmed. we are ok when we are all together, but thoase moments are very rare scince he went back to work. we feel stuck. i guess im just ranting because i dont really have anyone i can talk to about any of this and no solution seems to be in sight. thank you for letting me rant a little
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Lainey_WebMD_Staff responded:
Hi Anon_14275801,

Perfectly normal feelings you are having. This will change in time as she grows older. You need time to adjust to the new little life. If you need to change up hours you can begin to look at other jobs. Many mothers try to work from home.

You are welcome to vent all you want and I hope it is helping. Please take care and do something small for yourself too. Hot bath, a sweet treat, or even a walk can do wonders. I know it seems overwhelming and it probably is. Understanding that children will light up your life, is why we endure it. I bet she is precious too.
 
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An_221784 responded:
I am so sorry for how you must be feeling. I remember like it was yesterday (15yrs ago next month). My spouse worked long hours too. This WILL pass but in the meantime I think you may need some help coping. My town has a ton of those "mommie and me" classes and/or groups were you can get together with other moms who can relate to you. This will also help you to make more friends which will help a lot. I don't know what I would have done without my best girlfriends by my side.


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