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lagartija posted:
Well lets see. 5 yrs ago my husband and I took in our 3 nephews plus brother-in-law. My sister had decided she didn't want to be a mother anymore. She left them and moved to another country with another man. She came back a couple of months ago. During the time of her absence we spoke to them about what happened. Trying to tell them not to blame themselves and not to hate her. The dad is also absent a lot of the time "working." I love my nephews but they were brought up not wanting to fend for themselves on the most easiest of things. I have 2 kids of my own and to have to tend to 8 people "alone," gets overwhelming at times. I know that there are others that tend to a lot more people and I shouldn't complain but it's hard. Now that their mother is back, I didn't really expect much from her. The kids don't really have a relationship with her. She doesn't even bother to build one with them. And I guess I feel like " y am I taking care of Ur kids!" It gets me angry seeing her go around like she didn't do anything. Being ok if they want to see her or not. Like I said I love them and through these yrs they r my kids now, but I can't help feeling like that. I feel bad and guilty to feel like that. Its a feeling I have towards my sister and brother-in-law, nothing to do with the kids. I guess I want to know am I wrong in feeling like this?
0 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Don't know what to do :0/Well lets see. 5 yrs ago my husband and I took in our 3 nephews plus brother-in-law. My sister had decided she didn't want to be a mother anymore. She left them and moved to another country with another man. She came back a couple of months ago. During the time of her absence we spoke to them about what happened. Trying to tell them not to blame themselves and not to hate her. The dad is also absent a lot of the time "working." I love my nephews but they were brought up not wanting to fend for themselves on the most easiest of things. I have 2 kids of my own and to have to tend to 8 people "alone," gets overwhelming at times. I know that there are others that tend to a lot more people and I shouldn't complain but it's hard. Now that their mother is back, I didn't really expect much from her. The kids don't really have a relationship with her. She doesn't even bother to build one with them. And I guess I feel like " y am I taking care of Ur kids!" It gets me angry seeing her go around like she didn't do anything. Being ok if they want to see her or not. Like I said I love them and through these yrs they r my kids now, but I can't help feeling like that. I feel bad and guilty to feel like that. Its a feeling I have towards my sister and brother-in-law, nothing to do with the kids. I guess I want to know am I wrong in feeling like this?
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