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jenn1177 posted:
hi everyone, i am new to this board. our lo was due aug 31, but my water broke at 30 weeks 5 days. five days into my 4 week stay at the hospital on bedrest, they did a nst and our little guy wasnt moving well, so they decided to do an emergency c section. it has been almost 3 weeks and im happy to say we just hit the 4 pound mark, still on the feeding tube but at 35cc each feeding with no residuals. i am so happy that he is doing so well, but it is just so hard to deal with this each day. It just is so hard to leave him there everyday, and i can only get to the hospital one time a day right now, b/c i still cannot drive, and the hospital is about 45 mins away. I just burst out in tears at home, and have been snapping at hubby, b/c i cant sleep b/c i worry about lo all the time when i am not there, and i still just do not feel 100% yet. is this normal?? This is my first baby, so all of this is just so new and overwhelming. TIA ~ Jenn
bcmom1 responded:
Jenn, Congratulations on the birth of your son! I'm glad to hear he is doing well. I too had an emergency c-section. My recovery was pretty bad. I don't think I felt physically back to myself for a few months after delivery. I was not told that driving was a restriction, so I was driving 1 week after delivery. I know now that it is a restriction though, but I don't know how we would have done it without me driving. I understand how you feel about wanting to be with LO all of the time. The unfortunate thing about preemies is that they need to be in the NICU and really need to rest. It was hard for us like you said because we wanted to spend all of our time there but we just couldn't. It's easy for us to understand now that while we weren't with her, Lana was getting the rest she needed. I didn't see it that way at the time. I can also tell you that now that she has been home for over a year, I look back on that time like it was a blur. It seems like a bad dream that didn't really happen. DH and I fought a lot about the dumbest things while Lana was in the hospital. DH also got into a dumb fight with his dad during that time and they still don't speak to each other. This is an unbelievably stressful experience for parents and unfortunately the fighting just may happen. So, I hope that this time flies by for you and you are holding your little man in your arms at home very soon. Best of luck to you!
simerlm responded:
Hi, Jenn, Congrats on your new little man! 35cc and no residuals sounds great! I had a c-section also. It took quite a while to feel like I could get around well. I encourage you to walk around some every day. Don't overdo it, but walking seemed to help me get feeling more normal. I don't know if you have a hospitality house close to your hospital, but I found it to be a great place to stay. I could walk to see my baby whenever I wanted to, day or night. Also, if you are worrying a lot, I encourage you to call and talk to your LO's nurse. They can let you know how he is doing and ease your fears. Leave instructions that you want to know if anything out of the ordinary happens. They are used to dealing with distraught parents, so they will do whatever to help put your mind at ease. When my daughter was in the NICU, I cried every single day at least a little. I remember going to the store to buy her some preemie clothes and seeing a mom with her newborn and just bursting into tears. Everything reminds you that you want your baby with you and he's not ready yet. A lot of times when I cried I would feel a little better. So, I just stopped fighting it and had my cry session and then was strong enough to make it through the day. Hang in there. He is getting closer to leaving every day. Soon this will all be a distant memory. I fought with my hubby as well. Everyone deals with stressful situations differently. We had two children to take care of as well as our baby in the NICU, so we rarely saw each other. We just didn't see eye to eye. Just try to relax and not hold anything said now against each other. It is very stressful. Good Luck and keep us posted on how you are getting along!

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