I am a single mom with a 12 year old son. He has started masturbating at about 11 1/2 years old. I've noticed that his room smelled like urine and found bottles and drinking glasses filled with his urine. I think he pees after masturbating. It has gotten a lot worse lately. His clothes and his entire room smells of pee. When I get home from work, I force him to change because he smells like a homeless person. He doesn't smell himself but it's really bad. It's like he's marking his territory. I don't know how to approach him about this. Is there something wrong with him?
Thank you for your reply. I thought that what he's doing isn't normal, but then again, I don't know what males go through during puberty. Unfortunately, his father isn't involved with his life and I don't want to talk to anyone about this. I'm sure it will embarrass my son. I will talk to his doctor. Thanks again.
You are most welcome. I am both the mother of two sons (ages 13 and 20) and a social worker with 20 years in the mental health field.
I was thinking to start with his primary doctor, then perhaps psychological intervention and it may proceed to psychiatric intervention.
Masturabtion is not the issue here. It is highly unusual for a 12 year old to urinate in bottles and drinking glasses and who knows where else (because of the smell in his room and clothes.) Some kids have enuresis and hide soiled sheets and clothing because they are embarrased but your son's behavior includes urinating in bottles and glasses.
Your son's pediatrician will/should rule out any physical problems with his bladder/ infection etc. and then refer you out as needed for further assistance.
Because the urinating into bottles and other objects can be a sign of several neuro-psychological disorders in children and/or a general behavioral issue. Outside of a something like a UTI or bladder problems, kidney issues--you are looking at needing some other type of intervention and diagnosis for your son which most likely come from a neuro-psychological workup and recommendations from there.
I don't want to discredit anything that Louise has said, but it seems that parents are always looking for a diagnosis for anything that appears "abnormal". Since he is at the puberty age and you know that he has recently started masturbating, perhaps he is just overly fascinated with his penis at the moment? I realize that he's been urinating through it for some time now but with the onset of puberty a lot more of his attention is being drawn to it. I think that asking his regular doctor's opinion would be a good start. Secondly, it sounds like it's about time for a discussion with him about what is/will be happening to his body. Good Luck.
I work in the mental health field w/ children/teens. Urinating in glasses and bottles all over his room and filling them w/ urine has nothing to do w/ masturbation or puberty. His clothes and room smell of urine as well. It is concerning and first physical causes myst be ruled out.
She is not "looking for a diagnosis" just help and yes, this is abnormal.
Young males going through puberty do not urinate in glasses and bottles in their room as part of puberty and physcial development.
Thanks for your input. I appreciate it. He's already gone through "the changes" and quite early. His voice changed in 5th grade. In 6th grade, all the girls noticed he's gotten much taller, face is breaking out, more hair, etc. He had all his adult teeth at 10 years old.
I guess I shouldn't have said he is urinating all over his room. He just has empty bottles (something he already drank out of) or glasses that he brings to his room. Is there an urge to urinate for boys after climax? Perhaps, at times, he leaks or spills and wipes it with whatever he can get a hold of.
I'd like to add that, even if he's desperate to urinate, can't make it to the bathroom and urinates in a bottle because he HAS to ... that STILL doesn't explain why he has a collection of urine-filled bottles and glasses. Most guys would empty it and rinse the bottle/glass ... not keep it like a trophy in their room.
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