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My son is 12 yrs old and he still poops and pees on himself. I have tried everything & nothing works!
An_221751 posted:
I have a 12 year old son whom I love very much and would not trade him for the world. I have one problem he still poops in his pants and he pees at night in his bed.
Trust me I know what you are thinking maybe he has been abused or maybe he has a medical condition, take him to the Dr./child psychologist. Ground him, Praise him, Take his game systems away.
I have tried everything that I can think of. The Dr. treated him for Encopresis. But even the medication does not help. I make sure he goes to the bathroom but he still does it.
He washed his own laundry and sometimes it does not even phase him. He has been doing this for the past 5 or so years. I am at my wits end I don't know what to do anymore. I have taken him to specialist he has even been hospitalized to clean his system out. It worked for a couple of weeks but he was back at it. It smells so bad, we cant even go to the store or restaurant because is always dirty and sometimes he doesnt even change. He is an honor roll student and is very bright. He helps around the house with chores, but sometimes is lazy. He has friends, some who I guess just got use to the smell I dont know. I just need someone the PLEASE help I do not know what else to do. If you do not have anything nice to say please do not respond. I am sincerely asking for some help here.
momuv4girls responded:
Hi, first off, ((((((Hugs)))))), I am really sorry your son has been struggling so much, I know how hard this can be.

You know this is not "typical" behavior, so I don't even need to get into that, but what I will suggest is finding a new, qualified, smart, awesome Child Psychologist to see your son.
Not all Dr.s are created equal, and since the first Dr. didn't help, then move on and find a new one.
It can take a lot of patience, persistence and time in finding a qualified Child Psychologist, but it WILL be worth it when you find one that can help your son.

I think it is SUPER IMPORTANT to first interview a potential Dr. before taking your son in. You need to make sure the Dr. is a good fit for your son and understands what you/he need out of treatment.

I am going to pass along some links for you to explore that will hopefully help you out.
Again, I'm really sorry, please write back anytime with additional questions or concerns !!!

((((((More Hugs)))))

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