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Single mother... caught my son masterbating...?
lovelylip1 posted:
I'm a single mother of 3 children my daughter 15, my sons 12 and 5... I have recently noticed that my oldest son has become more curious about females I can't say girls because the pictures I see him look at are of grown women... I have recently caught him masterbating to pictures on the computer. I don't know how to have this discussion with him i need help....
fcl responded:
All you need to tell him is thqat masturbating is an activity that he should only be doing in private (presumably the computer is in a public area in your home). If the photos he is using are porn then you need to install a "parental" control type of software so he can't reach them.

Just remember that masturbation is a perfectly normal, healthy activity
canary12 responded:
Hi there~I just caught your post and I wanted to let you know you're not alone in your confusion about how to respond to this! I'm with Focus on the Family and I've heard from lots of others moms and dads who have shared similar concerns. But, I think it's great you're open to addressing this with your son.

And, in case you're still looking for some input, I wanted to mention a link I found that addressed a very similar situation. And, like FCL shared, depending on the reasons for it, masturbation isn't something to be overly worried about. But it is definitely something to be done in private!

However, I do think there's cause for concern that your son may be viewing inappropriate material on the Interent. So, I'd definitely second the suggestion to look into parental controls. Unfortunately, it's way to easy for kids to stumble upon pornography these days. And, there's tons of options out there, but I've heard that Bsecure is a good filtering program. So, just FYI!

Well, hang in there! I know raising a son on your own isn't easy, but it sounds like you're a great mom!

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