I love the silken child conditioner from Sallys. I use the johnson's conditioning shampoo and then the silken child. It makes my DD's hair easier to comb right out of the bath. I don't think its tear free though so be careful. I use the "just for me" detangler and the "just for me" oil moisturizing lotion too on my older DD, but the latter does cause her hair to feel greasy. She is 18 months and the lotion will make her hair feel greasy for about a day, then her hair absorbs it and it is dry again.
I started putting my dd#1's hair in pigtails when she was about 4 months, but she only had hair on top of her head so I would only put two pigtails on the top of her head and I would leave the rest down. I haven't done that with dd#2 yet since her hair isn't as long.