Parents of Biracial Children

People are going to continue to stare for a very long time b/c they were brought up the way where white should stay with white, black should stay with black, asian should stay with asians, and so on. I have a mix child, and I could careless who looks at us, or says anything. Usually those stares my daughter gets from others are compliments on how adorable, beautiful, cute etc she is. BUT.... as to what you said about people being surprised b/c he stuck around..... I honestly don't think that's what they're thinking. But I do get what you are talking about. A lot of other races do NOT stick around, but I believe that a lot of people expects that from black men.

All in all, don't let what others think of you and your family bother you.

Wow, that is an awful thing to say to someone. I haven't noticed many contemptuous stares, mostly like the PP just compliments. I am sure there are those out there who are thinking mean things, but no one has ever voiced that. There have been people who will say things to my DH that they mean as compliments but really could easily be interpreted the wrong way. Like I remember after Obama got elected a lady came up to him in the store and said, "You guys are just so much friendlier since the election. I think it is great!" I think I was more shocked that DH. He doesn't let things like that bother him if the people are ignorant but mean well. He has also gotten numerous people ask him if he was born in Africa. Some have even seem fairly certain. He always just tells them. "Nope, I was born in Seattle" ! So I guess my point is just try your best not to let it get to you. Most people are just curious or don't know better, and the truly vicious should just be avoided and perhaps pitied for their narrow and negative views. Enjoy your daughter and the wonderful and unique experiences that come with living in a biracial family.

I agree my husband just had a similar situation but he just walks it off. I asked him about it (it was at work so I got worried) and he said that people are like that everywhere and that he got used to it?!?! This saddens me because someone I love has to deal with racism everyday!?? That is crazy and I guess its not to a point where he fears for his safety but enough that he knows who to avoid in passing conversation. People are ignorant or at worst hard headed and set in their ways. The one thing he says that I agree with is that people are going to talk about you no matter if your good or bad, its more about what we learn from these interactions and how we use the information to prove them wrong! I really hope our kids dont grow up and catch it from both sides!

Sometimes I can walk it off and sometimes it stings, I mean I love this man with all of my heart, sometimes I wonder if people actually hear what they are saying. I just hope that I can give my daughter the self confidence to show these evil people that she is not just the color of her skin but is a beautiful person inside and out!

No matter what, people are going to be discriminatory. I am a (single) mother of a 7 year old biracial girl. Her father is black and I am white. In our small community, there are a growing amount of biracial children. I worried when she was younger about how she would deal with things and she really has surprised me.
When I went to pick up her and a friend (who is also biracial) at daycare last year, a little girl ran up and asked her where she was going. My daughter told her that she and her friend were going to go play at her house. The little girl told her "well I know why she is going with you. Because you are both have curly hair and you are black!" Her friend was stunned, but without missing a beat my daughter told her "No, my dad is black. My mom is white and I'm BROWN." And grabbed her friend's hand and off they went.
I have to say after all the discussions and awkward encounters with people, I was very impressed. Still we encounter times when people, mainly smaller children say "Is she your daughter/is that your mom? You don't look anything alike." and sometimes she will look to me to see what my response will be, but others she will respond with "well I just look a lot like my dad".
Your children see how you react to situations and they learn from it. I have not always handled things perfectly, but I hope that if I can help to ensure confidence in my daughter in WHO she is...as a WHOLE, I may not have been that terrible.