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RockerMommie posted:
Im not even sure if im on the right board...Where to begin with my story that takes so many twist and turns....
I am now a single mother of two beautiful boys, one is biracial and the other is not. I am also going through a divorce from my first sons father. Here is where the first twist happens...my youngest is 7 weeks old and my soon to be ex is not his father. Now I know most of you are thinking immediatly that I cheated on my husband. I did no such thing, my husband and I had an open relationship, we were swingers. One of the risks of having this kind of lifestyle is getting pregnant. We had no idea that the baby wasnt my husbands until he came out. Big surprise to all of us when this beautiful light brown child came into the world. My husband stayed 4 weeks and then decided (with the push of his family) that he wasnt going to raise somebody else's child.
So far the biological father wants nothing to do with his child. Ok so ready for your next twist...I live in one of the most racist towns, my mother and father (whom I am living with) are completly accepting and loving of there grandchild. My brother on the other hand...not so much. He said some very hurtful things about my son and even got a confederate flag tattoo after the baby was born. This obviosly makes it very tough living here. The looks I get around town are just amazing...How is it in this day of age are people still so judgmental all because of someones skin color, especailly of a baby's! Im scared by the time they reach school age that I will have to move just because of how hard his life will be here.
Like I said before im not even sure if im venting in the right place. But because of my husband leaving us has not only affected me but my children, and my parents. He now gets to lead the role of part time dad to our son ( whom is acting out all the time due to all the changes that has been made) I am so overwhelmed by everything these days.
Thank you for listening to me vent. I have to remind myself that I got the best part of all of this...two of the most beautiful children ever seen.
I am now a single mother of two beautiful boys, one is biracial and the other is not. I am also going through a divorce from my first sons father. Here is where the first twist happens...my youngest is 7 weeks old and my soon to be ex is not his father. Now I know most of you are thinking immediatly that I cheated on my husband. I did no such thing, my husband and I had an open relationship, we were swingers. One of the risks of having this kind of lifestyle is getting pregnant. We had no idea that the baby wasnt my husbands until he came out. Big surprise to all of us when this beautiful light brown child came into the world. My husband stayed 4 weeks and then decided (with the push of his family) that he wasnt going to raise somebody else's child.
So far the biological father wants nothing to do with his child. Ok so ready for your next twist...I live in one of the most racist towns, my mother and father (whom I am living with) are completly accepting and loving of there grandchild. My brother on the other hand...not so much. He said some very hurtful things about my son and even got a confederate flag tattoo after the baby was born. This obviosly makes it very tough living here. The looks I get around town are just amazing...How is it in this day of age are people still so judgmental all because of someones skin color, especailly of a baby's! Im scared by the time they reach school age that I will have to move just because of how hard his life will be here.
Like I said before im not even sure if im venting in the right place. But because of my husband leaving us has not only affected me but my children, and my parents. He now gets to lead the role of part time dad to our son ( whom is acting out all the time due to all the changes that has been made) I am so overwhelmed by everything these days.
Thank you for listening to me vent. I have to remind myself that I got the best part of all of this...two of the most beautiful children ever seen.
2 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Where to beginIm not even sure if im on the right board...Where to begin with my story that takes so many twist and turns....<br /><br />I am now a single mother of two beautiful boys, one is biracial and the other is not. I am also going through a divorce from my first sons father. Here is where the first twist happens...my youngest is 7 weeks old and my soon to be ex is not his father. Now I know most of you are thinking immediatly that I cheated on my husband. I did no such thing, my husband and I had an open relationship, we were swingers. One of the risks of having this kind of lifestyle is getting pregnant. We had no idea that the baby wasnt my husbands until he came out. Big surprise to all of us when this beautiful light brown child came into the world. My husband stayed 4 weeks and then decided (with the push of his family) that he wasnt going to raise somebody else's child. <br /><br />So far the biological father wants nothing to do with his child. Ok so ready for your next twist...I live in one of the most racist towns, my mother and father (whom I am living with) are completly accepting and loving of there grandchild. My brother on the other hand...not so much. He said some very hurtful things about my son and even got a confederate flag tattoo after the baby was born. This obviosly makes it very tough living here. The looks I get around town are just amazing...How is it in this day of age are people still so judgmental all because of someones skin color, especailly of a baby's! Im scared by the time they reach school age that I will have to move just because of how hard his life will be here.<br /><br />Like I said before im not even sure if im venting in the right place. But because of my husband leaving us has not only affected me but my children, and my parents. He now gets to lead the role of part time dad to our son ( whom is acting out all the time due to all the changes that has been made) I am so overwhelmed by everything these days.<br /><br />Thank you for listening to me vent. I have to remind myself that I got the best part of all of this...two of the most beautiful children ever seen.
mrsjmsr responded:
Im so sorry that you and your children have to go through this. I would recommend (if possible) that you move to a lager city where there are all types (races) of ppl (ie Atlanta, New York, California). I have two bi-racial children, there dad is bi-racial. We live in atlanta and honestly, we have not encountered any problems. Where we live (city of smyrna) there are actually alot of bi-racial children in our neighborhood. In the larger cities, you have more interacial dating, therefore producing more interracial children. I would really suggest changing your environment.
I hope things get better for you!!!
I hope things get better for you!!!
Report This| Share this:Where to beginIm so sorry that you and your children have to go through this. I would recommend (if possible) that you move to a lager city where there are all types (races) of ppl (ie Atlanta, New York, California). I have two bi-racial children, there dad is bi-racial. We live in atlanta and honestly, we have not encountered any problems. Where we live (city of smyrna) there are actually alot of bi-racial children in our neighborhood. In the larger cities, you have more interacial dating, therefore producing more interracial children. I would really suggest changing your environment.<br /> <br />I hope things get better for you!!!
kay_kay75 responded:
I am with PP that you should try to move to a larger town where this is more accepted, I live in St Louis and we have lots of bi-racial children, and remember that you will always get looks because your children don't look the same but that is ok really. Just work on loving your children and they will be happy. Your oldest son's whole life has just been turned upside down so it may take a while for him to get used to the changes going on around him and he will probably blame the baby for a while. Just continue to make him feel important and that you love him too!
Report This| Share this:Where to beginI am with PP that you should try to move to a larger town where this is more accepted, I live in St Louis and we have lots of bi-racial children, and remember that you will always get looks because your children don't look the same but that is ok really. Just work on loving your children and they will be happy. Your oldest son's whole life has just been turned upside down so it may take a while for him to get used to the changes going on around him and he will probably blame the baby for a while. Just continue to make him feel important and that you love him too!
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