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Am I wrong PART TWO
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Anon_72245 posted:
So, here's a little update so far... I've recently decided to contact the babys dad's gf through facebook (End of Nov 2011), letting her know it was ok that our kids meet since they (kids) share the same father and I had no clue as to his whereabouts. We (me and her) have left the past in the past. obviously he lied to the both of us. I wanna say her son is 4 or 6 months younger than my daughter. So, anyways, what she told me is that (let's call the Kids Father "BOB") BOB and her were under the impression that I did not want BOB and my daughter to meet. I know it's none of her business, but I told her that I already told BOB from the getgo that I would never keep my child away from her father, unless it was for the best. I did tell her that what ever issues BOB and I have to figure out is our battle, not hers to fix it for him. He is locked up at the moment and said to be out in Summer of 2012 and he talks about my daughter all the time, and would very much love to be in her life. He can say what he wants to say, actions speaks louder than words... He'll have to prove it to me and my child.

BOB's gf and I are suppose to meet soon.... We'll see if it actually happens....

I find myself questioning, should I have started this? *ugh* I hate the drama.....
1 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Am I wrong PART TWOSo, here's a little update so far... I've recently decided to contact the babys dad's gf through facebook (End of Nov 2011), letting her know it was ok that our kids meet since they (kids) share the same father and I had no clue as to his whereabouts. We (me and her) have left the past in the past. obviously he lied to the both of us. I wanna say her son is 4 or 6 months younger than my daughter. So, anyways, what she told me is that (let's call the Kids Father "BOB") BOB and her were under the impression that I did not want BOB and my daughter to meet. I know it's none of her business, but I told her that I already told BOB from the getgo that I would never keep my child away from her father, unless it was for the best. I did tell her that what ever issues BOB and I have to figure out is our battle, not hers to fix it for him. He is locked up at the moment and said to be out in Summer of 2012 and he talks about my daughter all the time, and would very much love to be in her life. He can say what he wants to say, actions speaks louder than words... He'll have to prove it to me and my child. <br /> <br />BOB's gf and I are suppose to meet soon.... We'll see if it actually happens.... <br /> <br />I find myself questioning, should I have started this? *ugh* I hate the drama.....
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ccrain268 responded:
Wow I know that has to be really trying on you. I have recently tried to contact my sons father (who is in the military) and he told me to get lost. I think that you are getting any response is great but the tougher decision is still out there. Is her father going to be a positive addition to her life or a negative one? That is really scary I would think. I know this sounds gross and wrong but Im that girl with 4 kids and 4 babys dads! Only 2 of my kids know their fathers, and if I had the chance to do it over again, I think I would make a different decision. In my experience, their dads just want to call me any given day and say they want to spend time. They never take into account that I work and they go to school, we have stuff going on that cant be blown off. Then dads are mad at me because I cant bring the kids to them. The kids go over there and come back hungry and angry because he said this but didn't do it and this and that. It seems now that if I have to work so hard for you to spend time with your kids, I could be using that energy in a more positive way. I think my kids would have been better off without their Dads in and out treatment, it has effected my 14 yo daughter the most she is so sad about how her dad treats her and uses her a like a trophy when he wants anyone to think he's a family man. I hope you dont have to go through all this but its good to hear the bad when hoping for the good! Good Luck
If you hadn't started this then you would be looking back asking if you made the right decision again. Either way.
At least you will have a cut and dry answer to your questions and hopefully your daughter gains a responsible caring father
Report This| Share this:Am I wrong PART TWOWow I know that has to be really trying on you. I have recently tried to contact my sons father (who is in the military) and he told me to get lost. I think that you are getting any response is great but the tougher decision is still out there. Is her father going to be a positive addition to her life or a negative one? That is really scary I would think. I know this sounds gross and wrong but Im that girl with 4 kids and 4 babys dads! Only 2 of my kids know their fathers, and if I had the chance to do it over again, I think I would make a different decision. In my experience, their dads just want to call me any given day and say they want to spend time. They never take into account that I work and they go to school, we have stuff going on that cant be blown off. Then dads are mad at me because I cant bring the kids to them. The kids go over there and come back hungry and angry because he said this but didn't do it and this and that. It seems now that if I have to work so hard for you to spend time with your kids, I could be using that energy in a more positive way. I think my kids would have been better off without their Dads in and out treatment, it has effected my 14 yo daughter the most she is so sad about how her dad treats her and uses her a like a trophy when he wants anyone to think he's a family man. I hope you dont have to go through all this but its good to hear the bad when hoping for the good! Good Luck <br /> If you hadn't started this then you would be looking back asking if you made the right decision again. Either way. <br />At least you will have a cut and dry answer to your questions and hopefully your daughter gains a responsible caring father
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