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Any Ideas for Becoming Pregnant????
Jessica042887 posted:
Hi! I'm a little new at this so if I either posted this in the wrong section or are completely lost, please forgive me and point me to the right direction.

I was wondering if anyone knew a way of becoming pregnant with PCOS? I haven't formally been diaginosed with it but everytime I go to see my doctor they tell them that it is a good chance that I might have it. I don't know if I have cysts on my ovaries. They refuse to check me because of my age and tell me to just give it time.

I'm 21 years old, over weight and I haven't had a period in over a year and a half. I know my weight might have a key play in it and I am working on it. I'm getting married in July so this is something I'm looking forward to in the future. Starting a family with my husband would be a highlight of my life.

I've been told that I have high testosterone levels and thus I've been thinking if taking estrogen pills would help me. But if it works and I become pregnant would it hurt the baby? Or cause a miscarriage if I stopped taking them when I found out I was pregnant?

I know I should be asking my doctor this, but everytime I go and I bring up the subject, they look at me like I'm too young and I don't know what I'm talking about. I've tried going to other doctors and I just don't feel comfortable with anyone that I've found. So I figured why not here. The stress of thinking about it everyday is starting to wear me thin and I'm about ready to give up hope completely.

Any comments or thought would be welcome, at this moment I need all the help I can get.

Budgell3 responded:
Hi there,

I am on older (perhaps wiser,lol) PCOS girl. I have 1 son. I am almost 42.

I was always told to wait to worry about not having regular periods, and I NEVER had regular ones.

I finally had a new doctor 2 years ago, who was shocked that I was never tested properly. I had my son by taking chlomid, but I am not even sure is that is used anymore. She ran blood tests, ultra sound, etc and found I was a textbook case.

My advice to you is to get a new Doctor (I found female doctors a little better) but one that knows that this is more than a fertility issue, that it is a pre-diabetic condition, and needs to be addressed.

I know my biggest issue when i was younger was having a baby, but trust me, get the right medical care as early as you can. Push your doctor if you can't find one you like. Ask to have the tests. In this day, we have to empower ourselves with knowledge!

good luck hun!

ssbean responded:
Hi, Jessica. I never post here, but I had an issue w/ my PCOS that I needed support in, so I came by. I want you to know, if you don't already know, that there is trying to conceive, just starting out board (TTCJSO), and a TTC 6+ months. You may benifit a lot from them. I am a regular poster on TTC6+, but I started out on the TTCJSO. I'm not sure if you are trying to conceive or just thinking about the future.

I am 24yrs old, and was diagnosed the end of last yr with PCOS. My OBGYN suspect it, based on irregular cycles, extra body hair, and I too am overweight. She ordered a pelvic ultra sound, which showed I had cyst on my ovaries, so she dx'd me w/ PCOS. I have been charting my basal body temps, BBT, on, it tells you when you ovulate, but only after there is a rise in temps, so you know after the fact, it helps alot though, and I have been using ovulation predictor kits. I am on my 2nd round of clomid now and I am on metformin for pre-diabetic. My PCP had me get a glucose tolerance test because my OBGYN, didn't do anything with metformin. Since you are overweight, you have a good chance that you too have insulin problems. Talk to your PCP about it if you want. Some time metformin is all we need, however in some cases we have to see a specialist, (reproductive endocrinologist-RE). It just all depends. But, metfomin is a good starting point. Find out if you need it, and start it. It can take a few months before it gets in your system good.

I wouldn't suggest trying anything without a doctor advising you. Find a doc. you like and push testing for PCOS. Tell them you are about to get married and you don't want to wait years as you go through infertility treatments or anything. I suggest, even if you are not trying now, to learn about taking your BBT and charting on fertilityfriend. However, if you haven't had a period in so long, you need provera to jump start it. I would reccomend start these things ASAP before you get married. Get on metformin, so my July/August, it'll be in your system. If you aren't wanting a child soon, then talk to your doctor about options w/out putting your body through so much. I have been married for just over yr. We originally said we would wait 2yrs before TTC, but shortly after marrying we found out I have PCOS and other problems, and we have decided to try a lot soon, because it looks like it will take us a good 2yrs before we are successful. Pinpoint problems now, get your cycles under control and get that metformin, it'll make loosing weight easier on you, and learn your cycles. When you learn them, and they are more regular, you will know a few days before you ovulate based on signs, and you can abstain from intercourse on those days to decrease your chances of pregnancy.

I will warn you, if you get married and jump into TTC, it will throw stresses in the marriage, that don't need to be there so soon. So, wait to try, could be harmful, in that you may have to twice as long before you get pregnant. But, starting too soon, can add extra stresses. Figure out what you both want to do, but still get your body taken care off. Good luck, and I hoped this helped some and I didn't ramble on.
jrcutie69 responded:
Omg! I am in a very similar situation. I was diagnosed with PCOS years ago. I got married a year ago tomorrow and am trying to get pregnate. I want to try the natural approach first befor the fertility drugs. I was told that there was a special diet and multi vitamin to help regulate. My doctor said that I can get pregnate by going on birth control pills for about 6 months and then go off and I would have 0-3 months to get pregnate, I just don't know if I need to take some hormones so I don't miscarry.

Please let me know what you find out,

holly8777 responded:
I agree with everyone on need a new doctor. It doesn't matter how old you are...PCOS does not pick and choose people based on their age. After 15 years of irregular cycles, acne, and weight issues, I was diagnosed. I had never even heard of the disease...happened to be seeing a new OB/GYN and he asked me if I was having any issues...I jokingly said...nothing I haven't complained about before.

He started digging deeper and before I walked out the door I had an ultrasound done...I have so many little cysts that you can't begin to count. I had literally 30 blood tests done following the ultrasound, but started on medicine before the results came was a no-brainer diagnosis. The tests were just to confirm I didn't have other issues and to see how bad everything was. I just absolutely bust a gut laughing when women on this board say their doctors could count the cysts. I've had surgery twice now and I have been told I have cysts on top of cysts.

If nothing else, ask to be referred to a regular endocrinologist. They specialize in disorders related to diabetes, thyroid, pituatary, and many other endocrine systems. They are well adversed in the diagnosis and treating PCOS in women who are not trying to conceive. My endocrinologist has been able to do things that are a little more out of the box because she has knowledge about all the medications out there that treat diabetes. I notice she's much more thorough with lab work and follow up appointments because she knows what she's looking for. After my experience with her, I don't think I'm ever going to let another PCP touch me when it comes to the PCOS treatment.

I saw something alarming in your said something about taking estrogen pills because your testosterone is too high. That is a VERY BAD idea! PCOS is much more than having high testosterone...basically every major hormone in your body is off. You need to know how off those hormones are through testing. You also need to have your thyroid tested along with many other endocrine problems before you can determine what the best treatment plan is for you.

As for weight loss and its affect on your ability to conceive...I learned something interesting last week. All the data out there suggests that you have to have a BMI (Body Mass Index) greater than 40 in order for weight to really play an issue with conception. You can look online through webmd or google to figure out what your BMI's dependent on your height vs. weight. I'm not saying it's a bad idea to lose weight...being in a healthy weight range is definitely optimal for you and would obviously be beneficial for a fetus as well.

I realize you have a wedding coming up, so this is definitely a stressful time for you. I definitely would agree that the first few years after a marriage is not the best time to start a family. That first year or two brings a lot of emotional changes between the two of you. Take those first couple years and just enjoy your time as a couple. You'll have some time to save up some money, or pay down debts, or do those extra little things that you won't have time to do once kids come into the picture.

After the wedding, work on finding a new doctor and force the issue about PCOS. Take information on PCOS to your doctor and explain to them why you think you have the disease. It's just as much your responsibility to stand up to them as it is there responsibility to step up and help.

Best of luck with everything...the wedding and the PCOS.
editorrobin responded:
PLEASE find a new doctor. I know it can be uncomfortable, but you do need to find a doctor who understands PCOS. It affects much more than just becoming pregnant, so someone who can help address the symptoms is what you need. As for becoming pregnant, I agree with the other posters that you are adding more stress to your life at this point. I know you don't want to hear this, but you ARE really young, and you have plenty of time to focus on your health first--then you can work on getting pregnant.

If your new doctor can get your PCOS under control, you can work with a reproductive endocrinologist when you are ready to conceive.

I'm speaking from experience. I'm 39 and the very proud mother of two boys (ages 7 and 5). My first child was conceived with Clomid and IUI (after trying the "old fashioned way) for two years. My second was a very happy surprise. PCOS isn't fun, but it isn't impossible to live with if you get the right treatment.

Good luck to you and congrats on your upcoming wedding!
DGCheryl512 responded:
Hi Jessica! First I want to say that you need to find a new doctor that will test you ASAP. The longer you wait to get treated for PCOS then harder it will be to get pregnant. Women with PCOS who don't get treated run the risk of their ovaries hardening and then making it very difficult (if possible) to become pregnant.

When I was diagnosed I was put on Metformin (an insulin medication) - on this medication I dropped 40lbs in 6 months... prior to that I couldn't drop any weight to save my life. My excess hair growth went away and things were good. I stopped taking it and gained back 10lbs and have the excess hair growth again.

I am going to be making a new appt. with the Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) tomorrow. I am ready to get pregnant and will need to take fertility medications. They do still prescribe clomid to women with PCOS but it is usually in conjunction with metformin. I have several friends who were able to conceive with clomid and metformin alone. Others had to go on to injectible meds.

I have high testosterone levels and taking the metformin alone dropped them in half! I went from having an 82 to a 41!!!! In 6 months on the metformin. How PCOS works is that most of us are insulin resistent... meaning that we don't respond to the insulin our bodies make and therefore they kick it into over drive making more insulin. This excess insulin sits on our ovaries b/c they're a gluten for punishment... they're just really sensitive. The excess insulin makes the ovaries produce excess androgens (or male hormones).

So diet and exercise are very helpful. Limiting sugars and carbs is MOST helpful. I am not sure where you're living but if it is around any of the 3 areas that I lived in I would be more than happy to give you the name of a doctor. Just send me an email...

Hope this helps you -- and best wishes for a wonderful, breath-taking wedding.
heather67400 responded:
Hey I ma in the same boat as you I've been trying for two years with so many diff meds and n othing when you get a chance if you could email me. I am also 21 :
kira811 responded:
Hello-All of these posts have been very helpful to me! i am 25 going on 26 soon and was recently diagnosed w/PCOS after a yr of going to a dr who pretty much told me I was stil young and not to worry I switched drs and got tested and was dx. We have been TTC for a yr and still am not regular. I have been taking metf 1000mg/day for a month 1/2 and no clomid yet but that will be the next step. I am trying to keep up hope that it will happen soon. I would recomend geting it all in order now so when you are ready it won't be so frustrating,depressing and stressful for you and your hubby. And Def find a Dr that will take the time with you! Any one have success with clomid and metf and how qucikly did you Concieve on that combo? Good luck!!!

Jill (25),DH(28) TTC 1 yr
superwomantj responded:
know exactly how you feel. i've never had normal periods and it took years for a doctor to actually give me the proper tests so that i could get diagnosed. i had to get a ultrasound of my ovaries where i actually saw the cysts on them. i havent had a period all year and i've actually been trying to become pregnant as well. i have high testosterone levels and my obgyn sent me to a endocrinologist and he put me on metphormin. but it didnt do anything for me. it's very frustrating but u have to know ur not the only one with this condition. go to a obgyn fertility specialist and they will help you. they look at you crazy cause of ur age yes but if u havent bled in that long that's not healthy at all. but yeah go to the obgyn fertility specialist and talk to them. it's all gona work out girl...we're all here for u don't give up hope...
superwomantj replied to Budgell3's response:
what exactly does clomid do for women like us with pcos. cause honestly i feel the same as her. i'm not really overweight maybe a few pounds but i just turned 30 and i'm starting to get worried. i haven't bled all year and i plan on going to the doctor next week.
Taylove11 replied to superwomantj's response:
Clomid is a fertility drug that will help you ovulate. Typically, if you haven't had a cycle in a long time, it means that you are not ovulating on your own. Clomid helps with that. I hope this helps!
Taryn (22), DH (29) PCOS and MFIF. Clomid
Leslie8007 responded:
am on met and took it my first trimester til my doc told me to stop. as far as the weight may be the biggest problem but the met will help with it I lost over 100 lbs before my daughter and was still over weight when i got pregnant. the weight loss always helps. i found trying not to not get pregnant helped with the stress and a crappy doc only adds to that. i found after he was done raise my butt so everything went where it should for about 10 minutes or so could have been the key. Stress and weight are our biggest enemy for conception and duration in a pcos pregnancy. so sit back relax and know you do have time on your side as you are just 21. I was 32 when i got pregnant and i knew from the first month really before my period was late. take prenatal vitamins so everything is as ready as possible for that magic moment and keep up the met! Praying for you guys! I got my miracle and i think you deserve yours too!
lrod86 responded:
Hi Jessica042887

I agree you need a new Dr. I went to a GYN last year and he didnt test me all the way on the PCOS. I see this new Dr. First appt he sends me to get an ultra sound done. I find out a few days later i have PCOS. I could have found out last year, but the Dr didnt check. I too am recently married and concerned about having children. I know that managing PCOS with eating right and exercise is a good way to start which is what Im doing. I also wanna talk to my Dr. I know that there are different kinds of medication you can take to help you get prego.

Take it from someone who waited. Go see another DR. They use to tell me the same thing. I was too young. Blah blah blah. Now Im 24. Was recently diagnosed last week, and now Im in the smae boat your in. Trying to figure out all the information I can and see what I can do to have babies.

I hope you get all the answers you need. Keep us posted on your progress..
ANBCTB responded:
I did not read all the replies. All I have to say is, time for a new doctor. Look into one that specializes in women problems. My OBYN is a specialist in PCOS. Dr's offices has drs and nurses that can do your annual. I would recommend seeing a specialist. And if they are strictly OBYN then I would not go to them. Look into ones that specialize in PCOS. Some drs are not educated in the field. It is still a new condition. Luckily I have a doctor and also, my family dr knows a thing or two about it. I see an all women clinic. Everyone there that works are women. And they are all about women. And they know I have pcos. I am 23 and just started to concieve. So, keep up with ur weight loss, and look into another dr. Good luck! You are never too young. PCOS never goes away. You can control it by losing weight but remember, skinny women even get PCOS. So do not be discouraged. It seems like your doctor is not educated on this matter.

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