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Am I'm healthy enough to have a child???
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amandapotts84 posted:
Hello,

I wanted a few opinions on this...as I'm having a very hard time with this. I am only 25 years old, and my husband is 30 years old.

I weight 200 pounds and i'm about 5'3. I am perfectly healthy, besides the weight; am I okay to have a baby?

My husband tells me that I need to lose 50-60 pounds before we have a child together, becuase he doesn't want there to be any complications...however, I would rather have a baby now, than lose all that weight, get pregnant and gain all of it back? But to be honest, I'm not that fat...I've always had big hips and thighs (as my dr. says, its because I'm a child bearing woman)...

I feel as though I don't think I should have to lose to the weight becuase I can have a healthly pregnancy and baby with how I am now and then I would lose the weight afterward. I just wanted a few points on this....am I'm wrong?

Thanks for your feedback, it means a lot.

Amanda
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jlenn responded:
You should talk to an OB about this definitely. But here are some pros and cons to losing weight first that I can think of.

Pros to losing weight: Getting pregnant is actually a lot easier when you are not overweight -- the more overweight you are, the more difficult getting pregnant is. Being overweight beforehand also does put you at a higher risk for some complications: gestational diabetes, preeclampsia and hypertension. It's your BMI that doctors are talking about when they talk about risks of being overweight, I think; over 25 BMI puts you at risk for these things, and the more over 25 BMI you are, the higher the risk. Also, although if you lost weight you would gain some of it back during pregnancy, you would not gain all of it back (a woman with a regular BMI should gain about 30-ish pounds) plus it is so very much different afterwards -- losing baby weight is easier after you have a baby. It is not like "regular" weight loss, which I know is hard.

BUT -- that all said, you do *not* have to lose weight to get pregnant. Plenty of women who are overweight manage it just fine. Your doctor will tell you not to gain as much weight during the pregnancy. And they'll do more testing and monitoring to check everything out -- you'd be considered high risk, I bet (just like I am -- I'm having a baby as an "old" mom, lol) and that means you'll have more ultrasounds and other tests to make sure both you and baby are doing fine.

So maybe the best idea is for both you and your husband to go to the OB and talk it out -- your DH may be more worried than he needs to be (it can be a scary thing for men, I think -- they worry about us!) or you may find you are more comfortable losing some weight first.
 
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yzzil2103 responded:
I won't tell you how much I weigh, but I am considered "obese". I was when I got preggers with DD and managed to still gain close to 70lbs. I had hypertension the entire pregnancy but no other complications. I did end up getting induced in my 37th week due to the hypertension. The induction didn't go well and I ended up with an emergency c-section. Post-op was ok, but because of my gut and where the incision was and basically I glued the steri-strips on with a hair dryer, I ended up with a staff infection and got really sick. That was all 7 years ago.

Fast Forward to today. I just had my DS 10 days ago. I weighed less than when I started with DD, but was still in the "obese" range. I went thru the entire pregnancy with no weight related complications until I got to the 30th week at which point my blood pressure went up and I ended up again with hypertension issues. I had my DS by scheduled c-section in the 38th week and so far (knocking on wood) I have had no complications other than fat puffy ugly swollen feet and a migraine for the last 6 days....again not weight related.

So, its up to you to make the decision with your DH and your doc. I did talk to my doc before getting pregnant and he gave me the ok with the understanding the complications I could run into. I HTH some
 
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GigiSage responded:
You should speak to your doctor about any health concerns you might have for getting pregnant. It is not impossible to have a healthy pregnancy and be overweight. Depending on your specific situation (like your risk factors for certain things such as diabetes and high blood pressure) you could be at higher risk for complications. Again you would have to speak to your doctor about that.


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