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    An_250273 posted:
    hello. i dont know what im looking for with posting this, i just need someone to talk to i guess. i recently found out im pregnant. my husband and i were not planning on having a baby any time soon. we have two girls already, 8 and almost 4. i had paraguard, the copper iud, as my birthcontrol. it slid down lower in my uterious however, and now im aprox 5 weeks preggy. when i told my hubby he was not happy at all. to be honest, neither was i. my feelling, it was ment to be, and time to move on and get my head around the idea of having another baby. he however, doesnt want me to keep it. he told me several times i need to get an abortion. that he isnt ready to be a dad again, we dont have the money or room in our house, he wanted us to plan the next one if we had another kid. he thinks i delibertly sabatoged my iud, then he started saying hes not sure its his just because he doesnt remember having sex in the time fraim (i have never cheeted, nor thought of it, so i know its his), and he asked why i wouldnt get an abortion because its not living so its not like im killing someone. i explaned i cant, if there was severe health issues for me or it, yes possibly, but not a healthy growing thing that will be a baby soon. hes mad as can be, and now has somewhat thretend leaving me over this. idk if its a scare tactic to see if im firm on the abortion thing or not. am i that much in the wrong though? i mean, im willing to get a second job to make this financially work, and to rearange a lot of things in the house and such to make the room. but hes made me feel like im horrible for not being willing to get rid of it. im not sure how any of you feel, but i just cant get an abortion. and i explaned that to him when we were just friends (it came up in convo), and then reiterated that several times through our relationship, and he didnt have a problem with it then. im sorry, im not fully sure what the point of this post is, i just... i just feel so alone right now, and i mostly feel like what im doing is right. its once he starts making me feel like crap about it, that i feel bad. with all this going on, i havent told anyone i know about the pregnancy, so i have noone to talk to......
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    jfglgp responded:
    I am sorry that you are going through such a tough time. I really don't know you or your husband but from your post, I can see that you are with a lot. I agree with you and admire your convictions. I would not terminate a pregnancy either. Especially because my husband does not want to be a daddy again. This baby is a precious, living soul and anything that is not a baby can not grow and develop into one. That said, I agree with you completely. You seem to be a strong person. You will have to ask yourself if you are willing to go through whatever you may have to go through with your marriage in order to protect your baby. Your husband will get use to the idea or he will not. If he does not, and chooses to leave, you will have to be that much stronger but I know you can do it. I encourage you to pray about your husbands reaction. Trust God completely with this and HE will make a way for you and these babies. Talk to God, tell Him how you feel and tell him that He is the only one that can fix this situation and you trust Him to do just that. His power and your faith is all He needs to provide for you and your baby.


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