Baby Nuptial?!
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Sarah McMoyler, RN posted:
We are all familiar with the marriage "prenup. As a mom and RN, with an expertise in the birth/baby family arena, I think it may be time to introduce the concept of a "Pre- Baby Nuptial."

Conceiving and then delivering a baby with someone you love will enhance your lives — without question! No one stops to consider the tough times, the stress and strain this little bundle of joy WILL put on your relationship. Your lives as you knew them are OVER. Again, lots of amazement comes with raising a mini-you, and lots of stress too. Emotionally, physically and financially it can be harrowing to raise children — particularly if you have been wearing rose colored glasses without stopping to seriously consider how children change EVERYTHING.

So, I am putting this out for discussion: what do you think about having a legal document that states the needs, desires, expectations before the baby arrives (and inhales you whole!)

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!

Sarah McMoyler RN
www.mcmoylermethod.com
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Ryan_Jacobs responded:


Hi Sarah,

I am a graduate of your course and a raving fan of your Method to bring babies into the world. I think that you were honestly just reading my mind when you wrote this blog today.

We have one amazing little girl and we are expecting a son next month. My wife has been brooding about how; "This time things are going to be DIFFERENT (through clinched teeth)."

It has come to my attention that I was a little too vocal (too often) about how the baby was still hungry and it was her job to make more milk. There may be more issues that she wants to handle DIFFERENTLY so we are meeting to draft a better plan or "baby pre-nup" (as you put it) so that parenthood of two Munchkins under 3 doesn't break our marriage into pieces .

My initial response was, "listen women, if we are going to raise Olympians then you have to produce as much breast milk as the baby needs." evidently that wasn't received very well...

So we are meeting this week to outline a game plan for better communication, protocols around keeping everyone's needs met and in what priority, shift allocation and so one, it will all change but at least we can centralize our focus this way.

We love each other a great deal but we both an be a couple of hotheads when we get in each others way so structure helps.

You Rock!

Ryan Jacobs