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Still Not Pregnant and I want to know why!
mslovelypop posted:
Hi my name is Mimi and I am 32 years old. Currently, I am trying to conceive my first child and it has a been a struggle, also kind of stressful. I was pregnant when I was 16 years old and terminated the pregnancy.

In 2008, I underwent a series of fertility test: pelvic examination, blood test, and hysterosalpingogram (HSG). All of my test came back great. I wanted to take these exams because I knew in the near future I would want to have children.

I have only been trying to conceive for about 4 months. I realize this is just a short amount of time, but I don't see why it is taking so long. I am still young and healthy and I exercise at least once a week. I have also been documenting my cycles and having sex before and after my exact ovulation date.

I tend to be a little intense and anxious, and I think this could be the reason I have not conceived. In Oct 2012, I started bleeding heavier during my period and bleeding in between periods. I went to the doctor and again was told I am physically healthy.

But why the sudden change? And why haven't I gotten pregnant in the past (after my first doctor visit in 2008) and in the present if I am healthy?

I'm so afraid this is not going to happen for me. I am worried and often I feel sad. I've been so stressed out that I experience tension headaches and that's not normal for me. I also feel some pelvic pain when I am stressed but yet again, my pelvic examinations are normal.
What's the reason for this?

Please help! I'm ready to be a mom!
tlkittycat1968 responded:
As you probably know, it can take a healthy couple 8 months to a year to get pregnant, even with perfect timing. You've only been trying for four months, not nearly long enough to worry. Most doctors won't even test for any fertility problems unless you've been trying for a year without success, six months if you're over 35.
mslovelypop replied to tlkittycat1968's response:
I know and thank you. I just wish it would happen without so much effort. When you think of something that happens naturally, you don't think it takes a lot of effort.

And getting pregnant seems more like a job for me, rather than a joyful recreational experience.

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