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2 positive tests, dont know what I should do
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Anon_24521 posted:
I am 25 I just took an at home test on the 17th and it was positive so I took another one tonight cause the line was faint and this time it was a darker positive line. If I were in a better situation I would be thrilled. I am normally a responsible person when it comes to sex, but heres my current situation:
I was engaged to be married in Septemeber, my ex and I just broke up a month ago, I was living with him and moved back into my dads. I had known our relationship was in trouble for months and was unhappy and had the final straw. He has had a vasectomy so I quit using birth control as it was unnecessary.
We had not slept together for months and I went a little crazy... I was permiscuous, and had sex with 4 different people.
Now Im pregnant.
I don't want to have to explain to four different men I am pregnant and not sure who the father is.
My period has been irregular the past few months. My period in June started early because I went on vacation, with 5 women and we all started our periods at the same time. My period that month was from June 3rd to June 7th or 8th not sure. My next period came July 22nd or 23rd, and ended the 26th (like a 50 day cycle?) I had unprotected sex on the 28th of July, the 31st of July, then the 3rd of august, and the 4th. Then again On august 10th. August 4th and 10th was the same person.
I don't remember my period in May for the life of me. But I don't think it matters cause no matter how I look at this, theres no way to tell who the father is until I have a baby and have paternity testing.
I felt like, the first couple of men I slept with had the lowest chances as it was right after I ended my period.
Don't ask me why I was so irresponsible and didn't use condoms, because I don't have an excuse other than we didn't have one, and I have slept with these people previously and trusted them to pull out, which they all did.
I am wanting the man that I slept with twice to be the father because he is a very close friend and he would be the best potential father but it will make him very angry, and yeah Im guessing they will all be pretty angry if I have to explain all of this to any of them.
I am afraid of having no support and no one to claim this baby, so I am seriously considering abortion. I haven't talked to a doctor or had an ultrasound or anything yet cause its the weekend, and no ones open yet til Monday.
I am very anxious, very freaked out, this wasn't what I planned for, I don't know what I should do or what I should say.
How would I even approach the man? "Hey so... I am pregnant, and I slept with some one else so it may not be yours but I wanna keep the baby so yeah Ill keep you posted buddy."
I feel so ashamed and embarrassed and really hope I don't hear negativity too much from anyone, I have had good luck on these boards before with advice, please help me through this.
Its such a big secret and I cant stop crying, I haven't told anyone, I just want some one to talk to.
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Ayg1123 responded:
First of all, I am sorry for your sadness, worry, and confusion. I know it is hard and very scary. The best suggestion I have is to pray about your situation for support, guidance, and comfort. Believe me, I am not a fanatic about religion. I just know that faith and talking with God has always helped me. And remember no one has the right to judge you. Sure you have a serious decision to make and you have to live with the consequences of those past decisions and whatever path you take now. But I am telling you, it will be ok. You will figure it out and your future can still be full of all kinds of good things. Good luck. My thoughts are with you.
 
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Ed120 responded:
It not easy to be in your situation.
Have you thought about private adoption. The wife and I have been trying to have a baby but so far things are not working. We have been looking into adopting. To give the baby up for adoption is something to consider, lots of couples wanting to adopt.

What every you do, all the best to you...
 
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lissmeanstrouble replied to Ed120's response:
Hey I just came back to review any replies, thanks ladies for the input but my situation has completely changed, I think that GOD was trying to teach me a lesson. God works in mysterious ways, I am not a religion fanatic either, but when you get as lucky as me you feel his presence.
I did not want this baby, and I ended up bleeding profusely for 9 days, and its been 3 days now and I haven't started bleeding again. My morning sickness and breast tenderness has gone away, so I think its safe to say I miscarried, BUT I wont know for sure til I can take another pregnancy test, the doctor told me to wait at least a week after I stop bleeding before I take one so its most accurate.

I am now, not necessarily in a relationship, but kind of, hes my monogamous sex partner now anyways. He is well endowed, and I noticed when we had sex it hurt like on my cervix like if he goes in deep it hurts, is that normal, will it go away because of my miscarriage or is he just too big for me?
We talked about my need for birth control, and he told me not to use the P word with him. So I need to confirm this pregnancy is over so I can thank god for another chance.

I am just so frustrated how difficult they make it for uninsured women to get tested and obtain birth control.
Politicians want to complain about welfare, but they wont do anything to prevent me from having an unwanted pregnancy and going on welfare. Planned parenthood demands 20 dollars for a urine test I can take at the dollar store. Even after I applied for financial aid they told me I make too much. I cant even afford to feed myself these days.
I know I should slow down with the men, but my ex had me so depressed. I just wanna feel love and attention whether its real or not...
 
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tlkittycat1968 replied to lissmeanstrouble's response:
That happened to a friend of mine. She got pregnant when she was going through a very rough patch in her first marriage so it wasn't planned. She did lose it and although she was sort of relieved, she also felt guilty for wishing it away.

Regarding your partner hitting your cervix, the pain will not go away. You will have to experiment with positions that don't allow him to go so deep or invest in a penis donut (not sure what it's called but it goes at the base of a man's penis to prevent him from going too deep).

Also as for him not wanting to hear the P word from you, is he doing anything to prevent it or is it only your job?


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