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Doesn't Add Up
An_257566 posted:
OK, please bear with me as I am trying to figure out and understand what happened here. I feel as if I may have been deceived in something and I'm trying to piece together information to get to the likely explanation. I say likely, because I understand that there will most likely never be a concrete explanation.

Here it goes...

I met a girl (early 20's) and we started dating.

She informed me that she has a prior medical history of endometriosis, cervical cancer that spread to her uterus, and cervix, and it was successfully treated. She stated that the first Dr. informed her she could not get pregnant and recommended a hysterectomy which was declined. Somewhere along the lines she switched to a 2nd doctor. She discontinued birth control in May of 2013 - supposedly taking it for the treatment of cysts etc. She visits her doctor every 3 months for testing and a check up. She denies any hormonal treatments, or past radiation therapy.

We were intimate around 3 AM on May 17th 2014.

Her period was due Tuesday, May 27th.

She missed her period and had several positive pregnancy tests.

Her last menstrual period started May 2nd, 2014.

Her cycle is normally 25 days.

Obviously, I was very shocked when someone who said they could not get pregnant suddenly informs me that they are pregnant. To add to the confusion...

With a 25 day cycle, and ovulation occurring normally, she should of been fertile between Saturday, May 10, 2014 and Thursday, May 15, 2014. We were not intimate on these days.

Her menstrual cycle app, with largely incomplete and missing data, says she was supposed to ovulate May 16th. Yes, May 17th is very close to this and I can see the potential there. But I also found the following information...

Regarding the odds of conception:
  • 2 days before O- 20 percent
  • 1 day before O- 26 percent
  • Day of O- 15 percent
  • 1 day after O- .09 percent

I would say with having sex on May 17th, we are between Day of O and 1 day after O. Roughly 7.5%.

Additionally, if she was ovulating on the 16th, that only gives her 11 days for a luteal phase (Missed period on the 27th). Somewhat short and I would suspect, reduce the chances of conception. Not to mention her supposed prior medical history.

Obviously you can see the conflicting information here that doesn't add up.

She has also spoken with her doctor, and according to her, there should not be any problems with the pregnancy. (high risk etc)

With all this, Im left wondering...

Did she intentionally misinform me about her fertility to get pregnant?

What do you think the likelihood of her secretly taking fertility medications in an attempt to conceive is?

How did the second doctor not recognize her ability to get pregnant?

If endometriosis is a life long condition, wouldn't it be AMA to discontinue birth control?

If birth control was discontinued, wouldn't the endometriosis worsen?

What do you think the odds are that I am not the father of this kid considering the info above?

Considering her prior medical history, where is the doctor coming from when she says that there shouldn't be any problems with the pregnancy?

As an outsider, what are your thoughts in general? Am I missing something?

Yes, we had sex. With sex comes the possibility of pregnancy. I recognize that. But considering the information, I'm left wondering if there is more to the story. She is just brushing it all off as a miracle.
confused6989 responded:
Additionally, I should mention also, that she told me that her doctor doesn't like outsiders being in the room during appointments. And also expressed concern over me being in there and asking questions.

She does state that she wants me to go with her though.

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