Rbullen,
Please try to relax. Trust me, I know that is hard to do with what you have just been told. My dh and I have the BAC antigen incompatibility. To date, only our first born had low platelets and we are not even sure if it had to to with the incompatibility or the stress of her birth. That said, you should be talking with a high risk dr about the odds of your particular incompatibility to harm your baby. Dr. James Bussell in NYC wrote the book on this problem so if your dr could consult with him at all it would be good. I know for a fact that the PLA antigen is the really dangerous one that almost always leads to fetal demise if not treated. Get educated in regards to yours and get some good blood work done. Not just typical send to the local lab. You want it to go to a special lab in Milwaukee WI I think. Also, from what I had read, 7 years ago the transfusions start around 15 weeks, so I think you may have time to figure without having to rush headlong into very, very did I mention very expensive treatments and proceedures. The dr who diagnosed me first was scheduling the transfusions and really freaked me out. I spoke with my reg OB and he referred me to another high risk dr who was cautious, but wanted to verify more before jumping into treatment. In the end I had a PUBS at 32 weeks(a lot safer than 15 wks) and extra sonos. I have successfully delivered 3 more children since, none of which were affected.
I hope I have been able to ease your worries a bit. FWIW, go to a medical college library and do your research there. So much better than the internet IMO. Feel good and take care of yourself.
Pam