Pregnancy: High-Risk Conditions Community

Althea071,

I experienced a uterine rupture during labor with my son this past October. The rupture almost cost me my life though the doctor did save my uterus. My son survived for only 18 days and passed away in my arms. I heard a saying the other day that I felt applied, "we never get over the loss, we just get through it". My son died from profound brain damage due to lack of oxygen during birth. My husband and I had been hoping for, dreaming of & praying about having him for six long years of battling infertility. Just like you, I'm wanting to have another child. My husband, like yours, is extremely afraid of going through such a traumatic event again. I'm seeking help from a high risk specialist that is two hours away. I see this physician next week and I'm praying that I will be able to have another child though he/she will never fill the void I feel for the son that I lost. As for your situation, hopefully your husband respects that you can't let go yet. Don't let go until you are ready or you will regret that and possibly resent your husband for urging you to do so. Whatever you do, plan for and do it together as a couple. On a side note, men just handle things so differently that women. I pray that you find what you are desiring whether it be a safe pregnancy or just coming to terms and peace with the death of yours son. I understand your pain and anguish as our situations are on a parallel. May God bless you with peace & comfort.