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    UGAmomof2 posted:
    My DD is 22 mos. old and isn't really big (about 27lbs), but she is SUPER wild. We have been telling her to be "gentle" around Mommies belly and now she goes out of her way to kick or hit my belly. We were at Tar.get yesterday and she was sitting in the cart trying to kick my belly. At night she wants to crawl all over me, esp. when she is trying to get comfy. Just not sure what I should do? I know the baby is super protective inside my belly, so not worried about that (for now), but how do I deal with a 22 mos old who doesn't respond to dicipline in any form???

    Anyone else dealing with this?
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    jle09 responded:
    I read in a pregnancy or parenting magazine that you shouldn't blame new "requirements" (couldn't think of a better word) on "the baby" because it could case the current child to resent the baby.

    The example they gave was something like "don't tell your 2 year old you can't pick them up anymore because of the baby, instead focus on how she's a big girl now and thats why you can't pick her up."

    Granted these are different circumstances, maybe you could try wording it different. Also, just a thought, but would you daughter enjoy having a baby of her own to protect? Maybe if you had her focusing on keeping her baby safe, she wouldn't focus on inflicting pain on you.
     
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    KLN777 responded:
    I work as a behavior analyst, so changing behavior is what I do on a daily basis. Without more info, I'll do the best I can! It sounds to me like the function of the hitting & kicking behaviors is attention. (That doesn't have to be what we would consider good attention. Often negative attention, like being yelled at or even a gasp or worried look, can be enough to reinforce a behavior.) The best I can guess with this information is that the reaction she gets when she does these things is what is strengthening the behavior. I would completely ignore the behavior and move away from her. Do not say anything or even look at her, and if you can, try not to even flinch or blink (I know, so hard). Just move away. Be sure to give her lots of love, praise, and fun attention whenever she is behaving appropriately toward you.

    I worked with a child a yr and a half ago who was having very similar behaviors toward his pregnant mother (plus banging his head into her belly as hard as he could). We implemented this same procedure and within a week, it was over. It worked like a dream. HTH! Let me know how it goes.
     
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    UGAmomof2 replied to jle09's response:
    Thanks jle09 :smile: I guess that's true for any child though, if you tell them no, they are going to try that much harder to do it...lol.
     
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    UGAmomof2 replied to KLN777's response:
    That is great advice!!! Thanks. I'll let you know how it goes!!


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