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An_216905 posted:
This will be long, so you don't need to read it, I just need to blow some steam! My husband is in the USAF and we are set to move to Japan. We advised our landlords for a move out on Apr 30 and my husband has been gone for 5 weeks training and won't be home for a couple more weeks, so I've been doing the bulk of the sorting to prepare. Anyway, we had to meet w/ a review board a few weeks ago to get medically cleared to go and get our orders. They sent our medical records to Japan and they DENIED our clearance because my daughter has very mild asthma. So essentually, we have to be out of the house in 30 days (new tenants have already signed lease) and we have no where to go at the moment. Did I mention I am taking care of a 1 y/o and 2 y/o by myself at the same time. I'm a bit overwhelmed. We have a lot of people trying to help us and my daughters pulmonologist has been in touch and is working on our behalf to tell the docs in japan that my daughter can easily be treated for her asthma over there and doesn't need to see a specialist.

To top it off, it's been such a rough week, I have just ate and ate and ate and now my scale says I've gained 10 lbs in 2 days? Is that possible? I'll be reining in on the eating definately, but now I just feel worse about myself and about everything. I was really doing good at keeping my weight in check this time around and now I just feel like a huge slob. I will be 26 weeks saturday and feel like I look like I'm 9 months along. I just want to cry. Cross your fingers that we can sort something out soon. I just wish my husband was home to shoulder some of this, but he needs to focus on what he is doing. I know military wives are supposed to be strong, but sometimes..... it gets to be a bit much.

I think the worst part is not knowing what direction to go.....the waiting for things to get sorted and trying to keep a happy face for the kids. I know the stress is bad for the baby..... but really, I can't help it.
Thank you for listening!
mommy_a responded:
Oh you poor thing!
Don't worry about the weight gain - you deserve some kind of stress reliever, and as long as you're aware of yourself it's ok.

I hope the Japan thing works out soon and you feel better.

Sorry I have no solid advice for you. Just hope and pray for the best for you.
imreddy responded:
I pray everything works out for you! Military wives, especially ones who can make their marriages work through the long distances, are wonderful examples of the strength of women. Try talking to the military ops people (I have no idea what they are called) about staying in temporary base-unit housing until the orders can be straightened out.

I grew up as a Navy brat, so I have an slim idea of what it is like to be on the move. However, since I was a child, I really had no concept of everything it takes to actually make the move HAPPEN, and I feel for you. My sister has four kids and is a Navy wife. She really is astounding in all that she does, and I am sure you are too. I feel guilty now for stressing over my DH CONSIDERING joining the Air Guard (not even the USAF full-time)...and very selfish. I don't want him to be gone those 6-9 weeks for boot camp, and the additional time for school after...but then again, I married a non-military man knowing full-well how selfish I can be.

I really hope things work out for you, and I will say a prayer for you and your family.
KLN777 responded:
I'm so sorry you have to go through that. The military can never make it easy. My DH is in the Navy and we're supposed to be moving before the baby is born in Aug (actually, we were originally supposed to move sometime b/t March and May, but they can't seem to get it together to get us orders). And we may get just a month or notice to try and sell our house and find new one. I love how they put so much of this on the spouses and then send us those stupid emails once a yr that say, "We appreciate and support our military spouses for all you do for our service members." That is such crap! They couldn't care less about us.

(Sorry, I guess I just had to join in on your vent b/c I totally know what you mean.) As far as the weight, I'm sure you didn't actually gain 10 lbs in 2 days. It just may be that with the slower digestive system of a pregnant woman, your body is holding onto some of the food longer. Good luck with everything. I wish I had some kind of good advice to give, but I don't. Take care and I hope everything works out!

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