hi moms!!! im in the 16th week of my 3rd pregnancy (first pregnancy ended in mc, second was successful). I'm having heavy bleeding and have been to the dr and er about it several times, it has been going on for over a month now... it goes from light spotting to bleeding so heavy it litterally looks like i pourd a bottle of red food coloring in the toilet. my dr says that my birth canal is closed like it should be and the ultrasound isnt showing any problems and its probly nothing... they have put me on level 2 bed rest and it impossible to do with a 17 month old very very demanding boy... i have no help from friends or family at all and my boyfriend, whom is the father of my son and the one in the tummy, does not understand the seriousness of the situation... today i started having a sharp pain in the right side of my belly and pulling sensation in the muscles in my back, dr said its because the baby is growing...
I am not sure what to do at this point and have no clue as to what could be wrong with me and my unborn child... please any ideas? im despirate for ideas to throw up to the dr
I am sorry things are so tough for you. It seems like you're dealing with a lot: Stress, physical concerns, and a toddler to worry about. That would be hard for anyone to manage.
You've been very good at communicating your concerns to your doctor and getting checked out. I'm glad to hear the doctor thinks the pains are from the baby growing, but do make sure to let him or her know if you have new symptoms or the old ones worsen.
Now, I suggest you get your boyfriend to come to the doctor's with you, or get on the phone and have a three-way with the doctor. He needs to understand how much you need to rest and follow the doctor's orders and you cannot do that without his help and support.
Maybe some of your boyfriend's family and friends can help out if yours aren't able to? It's really important you advocate for yourself and your little-one-to-be.
Hopefully some of our other mommies will have suggestions for you. Keep us updated on how you're doing.
Lurking from 3rd tri: Hi, I'm sorry youre going through all the bleeding and everything, but if the u/s is showing everything is okay, then that should put you at ease. However, I would ask my doctor to do a non-stress test (which will allow them to monitor the baby's heartbeat/fetal movement for usually about 15-30 min to detect any problems)..Also, maybe you should ask your doc to do an HCG blood test to see if your HCG levels are normal...Also, on the U/S did you get to see your little one move around? Have you heard heartbeat yet? Hopefully, you can bring these things up to your doc and get some better answers...I know some women bleed slighly in pregnancy, but heavy bleeding like what you are referring does not in any way sound normal to me...But please talk to your doc and if he is not willing to do these things, then I would find another doc..Also, your BF needs to be more involved, have him go to your next appt with you if he can..Also, do you think maybe you can enroll your other baby in daycare for a little while until you get off of bed rest? Hope everything works out for you, keep us posted.."Happr Pregnancy"
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I think Haylen's response is perfect. Having your boyfriend come to a d/a or talk to the doctor may help him understand how serious this is.
Did they check the location of the placenta? The two things this sounds like are a subchorionic hematoma (which, really, are more common in early 1st trimester, and usually have resolved by this point) or a placenta that is partially or completely covering the cervix (placenta previa). In both cases, I think the bed rest is wise, and your boyfriend needs to get on board with the fact that, for the sake of the little baby you're carrying, he needs to step it up a bit.
I'm sorry, I can only imagine how stressful this is.
I agree with all the PP. You should definately see if your BF will go to the doctor with you next time. Sometimes, if they hear these things directly from the doc, they are more willing to take them seriously. I remember having concerns about several things at the beginning of our first pregnancy, and DH pretty well blew them off... until he went to my first appointment with me. When the doctor addressed the same issues I had been concerned about, he straightened right up and began helping me more. Having a strong support system, outside of your relationship is important too (friends, mom's, sisters, etc).
I'm not sure what could be behind the bleeding, but you are doing the right thing by keeping constant communication with your doctor. Good luck and KUP!
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