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CandJ posted:
My baby boy is going to be 4 weeks old on sunday. I love him very much, but him crying alot and me not getting any sleep is irritating me ALOT!!!!! I don't have a job right now and my boyfriend works from 8am-5pm so I take care of the little guy during the day.. The thing that is really pissing me off is he gets home and he still really don't help.. At night im the one getting up all the time changing and feeding him. I'm stuck sleeping in a diffrent room now because I don't want to keep my boyfriend up all night since he works... BUT tonight he goes out who knows how long hes going to out.. I just wished for one darn night I could have a break. We deserve that right??? I don't get to go out or even just hang with the girls, because I don't have many friends the ones I do have live out of state.. I don't say anything to my boyfriend about this because I don't want to make him man. WHAT TO DO???? HELP!!!!!

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mommyin2011 responded:

I have the same issue. I have a 15 month old and a 3 month old and my husband goes out all the time. I never get to. after I had my babies, I really don't take to many friends, but that is besides the point. we do deserve a break once in awhile. I work full time and take care of my kids when I get home AND I getup with my 3 month old at night...husband doesn't help very much. I don't know ifs it just guys in general, or we just have selfish men!!

I let my guy know that he cant keep leaving and he needs to take more responsibility for his children...that helps for a day or 2, then he's back hanging out with his friend...

I actually get to go out wine tasting with my sister on Nov. 17th!! (I have to book my outings LOL), so Im looking forward to that!

good luck - and let him know how you feel!
Me (30) DH (31) 4 fur babies - DS 7/31/11 - DD 7/18/12!!
 
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scperdomo7 responded:
I think you are overreacting a little. You JUST had a baby. Of course you are the one getting up all night feeding and changing - you don't have a job to get up and go to!

Don't get me wrong, I'm sure its exhausting - I've been there. I'm sure you are feeling overwhelmed, it's understandable, your hormones are still in flux and people often say it's hardest going from one child to two.

You need to TALK to your boyfriend and let him know you're feeling a bit overwhelmed and you know that he works hard to provide for you financially, but it would be nice if you could get a night out with your girlfriends one night.

It's all about how you approach the situation, if you come at him accusing him of being an ass and yelling and being all dramatic, he's likely to just tune you out and not take what you have to say seriously.

Also, you stated that the friends you do have live out of state, so who are you wanting to go out with if you don't have any friends that live close by?

Maybe suggest that one weekend you guys just get out of the house as a family?

Anyway, best wishes and try not to let it get to you. I know its difficult, but the key to a better relationship is good communication.


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