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Danielle82506 posted:
Hello All,
My name is Danielle Iam a mother to two of the most wonderful kids a mother could ask for, My son Danny who is 3 and my Daughter Destiny who is 2, have really changed my life for the better. I found out i was pregnant with my son 3 weeks after i graduated high school. I was so scared, but iam happy i decided to keep him. I found out i was pregnant with my daughter when i was 19 and had her 2 months before my 20 birthday.
so even though iam 21, i was still a teenage mother when i found out i was pregnant with my son. So my dilema is this. Iam finising up colllege next month to be a dental assistant. I work 4 days a week, and 3 days ago i found out i am expecting again. I believe that I may be around a month or so, This baby was completly unexpected and an abortion is not an option for me.
For the past couple of months I have felt so happy that I am finally doing something with my life, and then I find out Iam expecting again. what iam even more confused about is DH did the "pull out method" and yet i still was able to conceieve a child. so obviously this baby was supposed to be here.
I go to extern next month at an actual doctors office. I want a job so bad, but iam scared if i let them know iam pregnant they will not hire me.BUt i believe in always being honest with your employers.
I am looking for somebody who has been in my shoes that can just help me with understanding this all and maybe giving me some advice.
Thanks
Danielle
My name is Danielle Iam a mother to two of the most wonderful kids a mother could ask for, My son Danny who is 3 and my Daughter Destiny who is 2, have really changed my life for the better. I found out i was pregnant with my son 3 weeks after i graduated high school. I was so scared, but iam happy i decided to keep him. I found out i was pregnant with my daughter when i was 19 and had her 2 months before my 20 birthday.
so even though iam 21, i was still a teenage mother when i found out i was pregnant with my son. So my dilema is this. Iam finising up colllege next month to be a dental assistant. I work 4 days a week, and 3 days ago i found out i am expecting again. I believe that I may be around a month or so, This baby was completly unexpected and an abortion is not an option for me.
For the past couple of months I have felt so happy that I am finally doing something with my life, and then I find out Iam expecting again. what iam even more confused about is DH did the "pull out method" and yet i still was able to conceieve a child. so obviously this baby was supposed to be here.
I go to extern next month at an actual doctors office. I want a job so bad, but iam scared if i let them know iam pregnant they will not hire me.BUt i believe in always being honest with your employers.
I am looking for somebody who has been in my shoes that can just help me with understanding this all and maybe giving me some advice.
Thanks
Danielle
5 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:Looking for someone to talk to.....Hello All,<br />My name is Danielle Iam a mother to two of the most wonderful kids a mother could ask for, My son Danny who is 3 and my Daughter Destiny who is 2, have really changed my life for the better. I found out i was pregnant with my son 3 weeks after i graduated high school. I was so scared, but iam happy i decided to keep him. I found out i was pregnant with my daughter when i was 19 and had her 2 months before my 20 birthday.<br />so even though iam 21, i was still a teenage mother when i found out i was pregnant with my son. So my dilema is this. Iam finising up colllege next month to be a dental assistant. I work 4 days a week, and 3 days ago i found out i am expecting again. I believe that I may be around a month or so, This baby was completly unexpected and an abortion is not an option for me. <br />For the past couple of months I have felt so happy that I am finally doing something with my life, and then I find out Iam expecting again. what iam even more confused about is DH did the "pull out method" and yet i still was able to conceieve a child. so obviously this baby was supposed to be here.<br />I go to extern next month at an actual doctors office. I want a job so bad, but iam scared if i let them know iam pregnant they will not hire me.BUt i believe in always being honest with your employers.<br /> <br />I am looking for somebody who has been in my shoes that can just help me with understanding this all and maybe giving me some advice.<br /> <br />Thanks<br />Danielle
crunk05177 responded:
Definitely look for a job as soon as possible...before you start showing. Once you do tell them you are pregnant....3-4 months down the line, it is illegal to fire someone due to pregnancy! Good luck!!
Report This| Share this:Looking for someone to talk to.....Definitely look for a job as soon as possible...before you start showing. Once you do tell them you are pregnant....3-4 months down the line, it is illegal to fire someone due to pregnancy! Good luck!!
RachelNuke responded:
No one can refuse to hire you simply because you are pregnant (there are laws against that). Also, most places don't care if you are pregnant or not. If you feel more comfortable, wait until you get the job to tell them (like the previous post says).
As far as your DH using the "pull out method"...That is not a form of birth control. You must use a condom or the pill, or no sex at all for birth control. The pull out method doesn't work because some semen can still leave the penis before he ejaculates. This is normal (it happens when he masturbates, or if you give him oral). Some people call it dripping, but it is still semen coming from his penis and that can cause you to get pregnant. There is also a chance that he may have pulled out just a little too late, which can be difficult to tell. Your best bet is to use a damn condom :) I know a lot of people don't like them, but how many kids do you really want?
Good luck with your pregnancy, and don't be too worried about getting that job. I would just keep the pregnancy a secret until you have to tell them if it makes you feel more comfortable.
I hope this helps you some.
As far as your DH using the "pull out method"...That is not a form of birth control. You must use a condom or the pill, or no sex at all for birth control. The pull out method doesn't work because some semen can still leave the penis before he ejaculates. This is normal (it happens when he masturbates, or if you give him oral). Some people call it dripping, but it is still semen coming from his penis and that can cause you to get pregnant. There is also a chance that he may have pulled out just a little too late, which can be difficult to tell. Your best bet is to use a damn condom :) I know a lot of people don't like them, but how many kids do you really want?
Good luck with your pregnancy, and don't be too worried about getting that job. I would just keep the pregnancy a secret until you have to tell them if it makes you feel more comfortable.
I hope this helps you some.
Report This| Share this:Looking for someone to talk to.....No one can refuse to hire you simply because you are pregnant (there are laws against that). Also, most places don't care if you are pregnant or not. If you feel more comfortable, wait until you get the job to tell them (like the previous post says). <br /> <br />As far as your DH using the "pull out method"...That is not a form of birth control. You must use a condom or the pill, or no sex at all for birth control. The pull out method doesn't work because some semen can still leave the penis before he ejaculates. This is normal (it happens when he masturbates, or if you give him oral). Some people call it dripping, but it is still semen coming from his penis and that can cause you to get pregnant. There is also a chance that he may have pulled out just a little too late, which can be difficult to tell. Your best bet is to use a damn condom :) I know a lot of people don't like them, but how many kids do you really want? <br /> <br />Good luck with your pregnancy, and don't be too worried about getting that job. I would just keep the pregnancy a secret until you have to tell them if it makes you feel more comfortable.<br /> <br />I hope this helps you some.
avenged1988 responded:
hey danielle....i was a teenage mom too... and i have been in your shoes....i was 16 when i became pregnant with my first daughter and 18 with my second....still in high school for my oldest. i still graduated with honors though it was very hard and went on to become a cpa. now, i am 23 and 9 weeks with my 4th pregnancy...me and my DH lost twins this november past. i now am on bedrest but will return to work right after the baby is born. but keep your head up...you may have to put things on hold for now but it does not mean that as soon as you have this baby that you can get right back on track....as long as you are determined and keep faith you will be fine...i am :) best of luck!! hope my story helped you!!
Report This| Share this:Looking for someone to talk to.....hey danielle....i was a teenage mom too... and i have been in your shoes....i was 16 when i became pregnant with my first daughter and 18 with my second....still in high school for my oldest. i still graduated with honors though it was very hard and went on to become a cpa. now, i am 23 and 9 weeks with my 4th pregnancy...me and my DH lost twins this november past. i now am on bedrest but will return to work right after the baby is born. but keep your head up...you may have to put things on hold for now but it does not mean that as soon as you have this baby that you can get right back on track....as long as you are determined and keep faith you will be fine...i am :) best of luck!! hope my story helped you!!
DaisyMae543 replied to avenged1988's response:
Hii umm i wanted to ask a question that i always wanted to know from someone who was pregnant at a young age. Is getting pregnant at a young age a bad thing? Do u regret doing that? was it really hard taking care of it? and im 15 now and i want a baby so bad i know how to take care of it and i have the time and im able to pay for it. but i dont know what to do for right now. People tell me that its good and bad but i really want to know from someone with experience. My boyfriend also wants a baby with me and he said he will always be there for me and the baby so do you think it will be ok for me to have a baby now because this is what i really want to do but want to know from your opinion.
Report This| Share this:Looking for someone to talk to.....Hii umm i wanted to ask a question that i always wanted to know from someone who was pregnant at a young age. Is getting pregnant at a young age a bad thing? Do u regret doing that? was it really hard taking care of it? and im 15 now and i want a baby so bad i know how to take care of it and i have the time and im able to pay for it. but i dont know what to do for right now. People tell me that its good and bad but i really want to know from someone with experience. My boyfriend also wants a baby with me and he said he will always be there for me and the baby so do you think it will be ok for me to have a baby now because this is what i really want to do but want to know from your opinion.
lovesmypup replied to DaisyMae543's response:
It is absolutely not a good idea for you to plan to have a baby at 15. Do you ever watch 16 and pregnant? Each and every boyfriend on that show says they will always be there, and he baby comes and they want nothing to do with it. I've never seen one episode where the couple is still together and/or happy at the end. Do you have a job? Are you finished with high school? Do you have a driver's license? Do you have daycare lined up? Will you be able to afford the daycare? Do you know what you want to be when you graduate? If you can't answer all those questions with yes, it is not a good decision. At 15, you don't know what you want in life or from a life partner. You haven't begun to learn about all the trials you will go through in life. Planning a baby at 15 will just be making your life harder than it needs to be. Wait until you are financially stable, mature and with someone who really loves you for you and is also mature.
Report This| Share this:Looking for someone to talk to.....It is absolutely not a good idea for you to plan to have a baby at 15. Do you ever watch 16 and pregnant? Each and every boyfriend on that show says they will always be there, and he baby comes and they want nothing to do with it. I've never seen one episode where the couple is still together and/or happy at the end. Do you have a job? Are you finished with high school? Do you have a driver's license? Do you have daycare lined up? Will you be able to afford the daycare? Do you know what you want to be when you graduate? If you can't answer all those questions with yes, it is not a good decision. At 15, you don't know what you want in life or from a life partner. You haven't begun to learn about all the trials you will go through in life. Planning a baby at 15 will just be making your life harder than it needs to be. Wait until you are financially stable, mature and with someone who really loves you for you and is also mature.
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