Pregnant Teens and Teen Moms

The only way to know is to wait untill you miss a period and take a pregnancy test

You and your boyfriend are trying to conceive and you're on the teen mom community?! you need to re-think this decision you are making. CHOSING to be a teenage mother is a huge mistake that you will regret. Ask any woman who had a child before 20 and they will tell you that although they love their child they would have done it later in life. Please think about what kind of life you would like to give your child, i seriously doubt you can give him or her that when you're still a child yourself. Give yourself a chance to enjoy your relationship before you put the stress of a newborn on it!

thanks for the concern but i am ready...i know its not easy..i know its far from it but im willing to step up, and take the responsibility

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You are not ready. A teenager can not be the best mother possible!! I don't mean to offend you or say teenage mothers aren't good moms but you need to be self-less and think about the baby's life! You cannot provide everything that baby needs when you are a teen! Think about the baby not yourself!

im sorry but i disagree...age does not define how well of a parent a person is...

Though I dont think teenage pregnancy is the best possible thing I also think you are wrong in saying a teenage mother cannot be the best mother possible. I am 34 years old and had my first child at the age of 18. My boyfriend and I got married and will be celebrating our 16 year anniversary next week. ANY mother can be the best possible mother regardless of age. Maturity does not automatically happen at a certain stage in life. I work at an elementary school and see many mothers my current age who need a dose of maturity. Our son is now in high school and is a respectful member of society making honor roll in honors classes. No...we didnt get to give him all the unnecessary materialistic things but we gave him a loving home and that is more important than anything.

ty kimberly, and congrats on ur 16 yr

I didn't say teen mothers aren't good mothers or cant be! I just am saying it isn't ideal and it very difficult to parent a child when you are still a child yourself. I have lots of respect for teen mothers (i mean i'm one myself). BUT it is TOTALLY irresponsible to TRY to get pregnant when you can't even support yourself finanically and are still in high school. I'm not saying it can't be done, it just makes your life a lot harder when it doesn't need to happen. I also understand mistakes happen, it happened to me. But to encourage someone to try to get pregnant as a teen when you clearly know how hard it is, is also irresponsible. I was just telling her the reality of teen parenting

I actually agree with you to an extent anon. It is completely irresponsible to try and get pregnant & choose to be a teen mom. At those young ages you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. It is hard to raise children with out a college degree. It's hard to get stabilized in a career that will pay enough to substantially provide for a child in a responsible manor with out a college degree. I think everyone who has already gone through raising a child as a teen mom knows that to be true. Not to mention, shelby do you still live with your parents or do you have your own apartment or something? Do you have a job? What is you annual income?or at least monthly? Have you calculated your annual income to make sure it meets the annual cost of raising an infant & then some, along with providing for yourself & living independently? or at least the same regarding monthly? Or do you expect to get pregnant & then rely on your parents to provide financially for your decision? Or are you expecting things to work out all peaches & cream with your boyfriend no matter what, with out planning for the worst case scenario (considering you are just teens) & expecting him to provide for you & this baby with out having any financial independence? Are your parents aware that you're trying to get pregnant? I doubt they would be happy with that concept. Have you graduated high school? Do you have your diploma or GED? Do you intend to go to college? Do you have any concept of how difficult it is to go to school full time, work full time, & raise a child? Do you understand how little you will ultimately see your baby under those circumstances? Do you understand how difficult it would be to raise a child & provide a financially stable life for a child with out an education? Do you understand that without a college education it will be very difficult to get anywhere in life? Have you configured the cost of daycare? Medical expenses for a child? Medical insurance costs for a child in your state? Shelby, you're right, age does not define how well of a parent a person is...not by any means, but the questions I've asked you do define whether or not you can actual provide for a child responsibly & independently. I don't know you & wont assume I do or insinuate that you are a stereotypical teen, so with that said I wont make any judgments as whether or not you are mentally or emotionally "ready" ....however if you haven't considered these questions & answered them prior to making the decision to get pregnant considering answers for worst case scenarios the you are not mentally or emotionally ready or mature enough to make that choice. It's always responsible to be prepared for any situation for the best interest of your child...I'm not saying you boyfriend would leave you alone as a single parent & that he wont actually end up 'stepping up', but considering the statistics it is a higher probability that he wont. Doesn't mean you will fall into that statistic, but you still need to be prepared considering it's a possibility. The future is undefined know matter what you think now. If we were all psychics & knew the future for sure we would never make mistakes. Now from the limit information you have given us, as far as I know you may have thought about all of this...but in case you haven't, please do.

BTW, I would never recommending or condone making the choice to try to get pregnant & choosing to make yourself a teen mom to anyone. Live your life, get an education, see the world, meet the right guy later after you had some fun, then have a family. That would be my opinion & advice if I were asked....but I wasn't so....C'est la vie.

Agree I just Turned 21. Me and Their dad have been together six years We Thought We Where Ready, Now I Have A Two Year Old And A Four month Old And Im A Single Mother, Becuase I Was More Ready Then Him He Left Our Family To Live His Life As A Dope Addict. I Love My kids But I Do Wish With All My Heart i Waited. Trust me you might think your ready but its completly different when you have that baby. and your boyfriend might change his mind and leave you in the dust. please be smart and think this through. im speaking from experiance im a single mom and work two jobs and raise my kids alone and still never had the chance in life to even grow up