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An_244646 posted:
in February my boyfriend and i decided that we were ready for a baby, but after finding out towards the beginning of march that i was pregnant we both had to move out of where we were staying. i have been staying where i can while he is at his moms (who doesn't want him to be with me) so i cant stay there with him. my schooling got messed up so now we are in different cities too. i have no income and am looking for a job, and place to live. he is currently trying his hardest to stay healthy after finding out last month he has cancer. we need help...any advice?
27 Replies |Watch This Discussion | Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...in February my boyfriend and i decided that we were ready for a baby, but after finding out towards the beginning of march that i was pregnant we both had to move out of where we were staying. i have been staying where i can while he is at his moms (who doesn't want him to be with me) so i cant stay there with him. my schooling got messed up so now we are in different cities too. i have no income and am looking for a job, and place to live. he is currently trying his hardest to stay healthy after finding out last month he has cancer. we need help...any advice?
Bulley1030 responded:
Although I have not been through what you are going through, I can with confidence say that education is a must and very important for income. I got that out of the way asap. I dont know how old you are but i'm guessing a teen since you posted on here. You are going through some very adult, and very stresssssful situations. What made you decide you were "ready?" What cancer does your boyfriend have and is it treatable or terminal? Why did you have to move out? Im sorry that you have so much going on and a baby will not make it any easier, but just have faith that in the end everything always gets better and time is always moving forward.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...Although I have not been through what you are going through, I can with confidence say that education is a must and very important for income. I got that out of the way asap. I dont know how old you are but i'm guessing a teen since you posted on here. You are going through some very adult, and very stresssssful situations. What made you decide you were "ready?" What cancer does your boyfriend have and is it treatable or terminal? Why did you have to move out? Im sorry that you have so much going on and a baby will not make it any easier, but just have faith that in the end everything always gets better and time is always moving forward.
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
we knew he was ready. this will be his 3rd. and i had decided because i almost had a job, and at the time i had a place to live. i am turning 20 this year. he has a brain tumor that has developed cancer and he is going tonight to a hospital in Virginia to see if a specialist needs to remove it or if there is another way. we had to move out b/c where we were staying was his friends, and ours but his friend is on ssi and since my schooling got messed up it counted me as an independent so we both couldnt stay there anymore.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...we knew he was ready. this will be his 3rd. and i had decided because i almost had a job, and at the time i had a place to live. i am turning 20 this year. he has a brain tumor that has developed cancer and he is going tonight to a hospital in Virginia to see if a specialist needs to remove it or if there is another way. we had to move out b/c where we were staying was his friends, and ours but his friend is on ssi and since my schooling got messed up it counted me as an independent so we both couldnt stay there anymore.
Bulley1030 replied to shelby_zellner's response:
Well anyone could say that you should of waited, been more settled, and had the job before you tried to concieve, but its too late now! 
I mean I'm 22, will be married 2 yrs in oct and still want to wait a good 4-5 years, I want a house and a backyard for our two big dogs. I feel the need of being settled.
Hopefully if you have worked this hard to have, one against all odds, you will be a good loving mother, and no matter what keep that baby first. It will be stressful (not from my experience but a friends) and very exhausting, but it always gets better. No matter what do whats best for baby, and mommy will be happy.
I mean I'm 22, will be married 2 yrs in oct and still want to wait a good 4-5 years, I want a house and a backyard for our two big dogs. I feel the need of being settled.
Hopefully if you have worked this hard to have, one against all odds, you will be a good loving mother, and no matter what keep that baby first. It will be stressful (not from my experience but a friends) and very exhausting, but it always gets better. No matter what do whats best for baby, and mommy will be happy.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...Well anyone could say that you should of waited, been more settled, and had the job before you tried to concieve, but its too late now! <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0"> <br /> <br />I mean I'm 22, will be married 2 yrs in oct and still want to wait a good 4-5 years, I want a house and a backyard for our two big dogs. I feel the need of being settled. <br /> <br />Hopefully if you have worked this hard to have, one against all odds, you will be a good loving mother, and no matter what keep that baby first. It will be stressful (not from my experience but a friends) and very exhausting, but it always gets better. No matter what do whats best for baby, and mommy will be happy. <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0">
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
know. i had planned on waiting until i met my bf. and i know. i grew up in a hard place with parents divorcing, my real dad leaving, and so much more. i promised myself that i would do anything possible to give it a good life, and my bf is excited and is planning being there as well.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...<i>know. i had planned on waiting until i met my bf. and i know. i grew up in a hard place with parents divorcing, my real dad leaving, and so much more. i promised myself that i would do anything possible to give it a good life, and my bf is excited and is planning being there as well.</i>
Bulley1030 replied to shelby_zellner's response:
Well I can tell you too that I had a very tough life. This is the first time in my life I have felt comfortable in my own home. My mom left when I was 3 and since then I've had 2 step moms. The last bring the worst, alcoholism and abuse physical/emotional. So I know where you are coming from with that. All I hope is that your BF really istrying and going to be there for you. Too many men today think they can dip out on you when you have a baby because they are "scared" or don't feel like "being around anymore." I und the drive you have to give your baby a good life because I too have that want to do my kids right when I have them. Keep that want and drive to motivate you when the going gets tough because that may be the only thing to keep you going. My husband had a rough life with split parents, alcoholism, and abuse so he feels the same way about giving our children the best with us together as a family.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...Well I can tell you too that I had a very tough life. This is the first time in my life I have felt comfortable in my own home. My mom left when I was 3 and since then I've had 2 step moms. The last bring the worst, alcoholism and abuse physical/emotional. So I know where you are coming from with that. All I hope is that your BF really istrying and going to be there for you. Too many men today think they can dip out on you when you have a baby because they are "scared" or don't feel like "being around anymore." I und the drive you have to give your baby a good life because I too have that want to do my kids right when I have them. Keep that want and drive to motivate you when the going gets tough because that may be the only thing to keep you going. My husband had a rough life with split parents, alcoholism, and abuse so he feels the same way about giving our children the best with us together as a family.
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
yeah, i just hope to god that i can find a place to live, and after his cancer is treated he can come be with me
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...yeah, i just hope to god that i can find a place to live, and after his cancer is treated he can come be with me
Bulley1030 replied to shelby_zellner's response:
well just keep trying and hoping for it to happen.. it will just give it time
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...well just keep trying and hoping for it to happen.. it will just give it time <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0">
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
ty but times running out. i need a place by tomorrow...
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...ty but times running out. i need a place by tomorrow...
An_244646 replied to Bulley1030's response:
well i got my schooling up and running but still looking for a place to live. almost had a job but my brother messed that up....my bf made it through his surgery but lost hearing in one ear so they are trying to figure out if its permanent or not
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...well i got my schooling up and running but still looking for a place to live. almost had a job but my brother messed that up....my bf made it through his surgery but lost hearing in one ear so they are trying to figure out if its permanent or not
Bulley1030 replied to An_244646's response:
well it's great you got your education on track that will be the most important thing to keep the three of you going later on. hopefully the job and house/apartment search will work out soon. keep your chin up!
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...well it's great you got your education on track that will be the most important thing to keep the three of you going later on. hopefully the job and house/apartment search will work out soon. keep your chin up!
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
ty my bf is still getting testing done to see what they can do about his hearing. and i am going tomorrow to a temp. agency to see if i can get a job. im still looking for a place but hopefully i get one soon.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...ty my bf is still getting testing done to see what they can do about his hearing. and i am going tomorrow to a temp. agency to see if i can get a job. im still looking for a place but hopefully i get one soon.
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
well got some good news...david should be back in ohio in hopefully a week. and the drs. took a second look and he should get his hearing back and then some bad news....my bro. found out his unborn baby has either chromes disease or down syndrome. and to top that off his pregnant gf went into labor yesterday(5 months too early).
and then some bad news....my bro. found out his unborn baby has either chromes disease or down syndrome. and to top that off his pregnant gf went into labor yesterday(5 months too early).Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...well got some good news...david should be back in ohio in hopefully a week. and the drs. took a second look and he should get his hearing back <img src="http://img.webmd.com/community/images/smile.gif" align="top" border="0"> and then some bad news....my bro. found out his unborn baby has either chromes disease or down syndrome. and to top that off his pregnant gf went into labor yesterday(5 months too early).
Bulley1030 replied to shelby_zellner's response:
that's great news about your boyfriend! very happy his health is doing better. and I'm so sorry to hear about you brother that's awful. it's very early for her to be in labor hopefully they can stop it. there is a huge support system with those who have disabled children so I know they will get the help they need, even though it is very straining emotionally.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...that's great news about your boyfriend! very happy his health is doing better. and I'm so sorry to hear about you brother that's awful. it's very early for her to be in labor hopefully they can stop it. there is a huge support system with those who have disabled children so I know they will get the help they need, even though it is very straining emotionally.
shelby_zellner replied to Bulley1030's response:
yeah the hospital told my bf that they are gonna try to get it back asap before he comes back. my brother and his gf are still in the hospital the baby hasnt came yet but no one is sure whats going on.
Report This| Share this:pregnant and struggling...yeah the hospital told my bf that they are gonna try to get it back asap before he comes back. my brother and his gf are still in the hospital the baby hasnt came yet but no one is sure whats going on.
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